I have learned that my husband has been cheating not the two times I knew about, but now our whole FIVE years of marriage and I want out. We have four children, just bought a new house, just moved for my new job...not what? I have no family here, no real friends yet, but I did find a dependable Christian babysitter. I am open to all suggestions. Oh, and I did get "tested" already and everything was negative-so there will be no killing in this situation guys. I really need decent suggestions please. This is my children's lives we are talking about also.
2006-08-31 23:03:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
starting over is hard. But it can be worth it. Meet Friends, go to church, network.
But take it slow. If you rush into change you will be more likely to fail.
Good Luck
2006-08-31 23:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has been cheating and your done, be done. New home, don't worry those thing work themselves out. For yourselve and your children find a place with support, move. There is always another job, bills will get pay eventually. First be true to yourselve.
Also wait till your husband if off away from home, drain bank accounts, buy gift certificates with your credit cards to max them out and load up a moving truck with all of the possions and move.
Gift certificates go easily back on the cards, and dividing is easier when your dividing the stuff.
My wife and I seperated, and it being her third and my first she did that and cleaned up, she served me with divorce papers and took off with everything. It would have cost too much to get anything back and I was broke.
But with out her I quit the job I hated and opened my own business and with in months of opening I am doing great.
Make your and the childrens world as stable as possible, by stable I mean freinds and family, money issues work out best when your happier.
2006-09-01 06:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by treky1999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a support group around you, is there a women,s shelter that might offer financial advice and assist with accommodation, Others have done this and gone on to a better life. Start to prioritise your future and most importantly assure your children that you will all get through this time. This might be a great time to change the home routines and to give some extra responsibility to your eldest child. Use your babysitter.Good luck you are seeking advice that is the first step,remember - "You alone can do this, but you cannot do it alone"
2006-09-01 06:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by mark2zephyr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me...I'm going thru this right now as well. I don't understand why husbands feel the need to "have their cake and ice cream too." Why can't they be happy with the choices "they made". I am so sorry to hear this. I feel your pain, anger and hurt.
Okay, so "we've decided to leave..." so now what. Have you looked into options you have in the area you live in? Can YOU afford to move back home... If you can't then contact your local pastor...or talk with the babysitter you found...they may have an insight into support groups in your area. Keep your head held high. YOU DID NOT RUIN THIS MARRIAGE...
2006-09-01 06:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by sammie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back home where your family is. Sell all the crap that you don't need and focus on raising your children.
2006-09-04 21:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try tgoing to church. You can meet pretty nice people there. A kind of church I suggest is an Assembly of God church. Anyways, I want to offer to be a friend to you.
2006-09-01 06:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got a job right? you can do it. just take it easy and don't forget to take care of yourself. He'll never be of any help.
2006-09-01 08:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now do it.
2006-09-01 06:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋