Me and my husband have sex 3 to 4 times a week and only 1 round per night and sometimes I want more but he cannot do it, but the sex is greeeaaaat! What do u think is the problem?
2006-08-31 22:38:23 · 22 answers · asked by popi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
3 to 4 time limit is stated as normal for most guys. i once watch a documentary that some ladies have a more sex drive hormone than the majority, not harmful though. so you might one of those , so both of u 2 are cool. just be considerate with his sexual needs & limitation too.
2006-08-31 22:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description I can't quite tell if you mean that he loses his erection while he is putting the condom on or if you mean he loses his erection after he has penetrated you and the two of you are having sex.
If it happened while he was putting the condom on then all you would have to do is give him some extra stimulation. For example, you could kiss him, stroke his thigh or chest, or even put the condom on for him to help keep him aroused.
If this is happening after penetration then it could be that he isn't getting as much feeling through the condom. If this is the case you can improve this just by putting a little KY jelly in the inside tip of the condom before he puts it on. This allows a little slipping inside and increases sensation. However, if you do this you must be certain to hold the condom during withdrawal as the extra lubrication can make it easier to slide off as the erection is lost.
If it isn't the feeling of the condom then it could be other things. These things can include being nervous or perhaps he needs additional stimulation during sex. Men prefer different things so you would have to find out what he likes. This could include looking into his eyes, talking about your feelings, talking dirty, touching his skin or holding onto him, kissing him, or letting him touch your breasts.
Tell your boyfriend though that it should not effect his ego. Although my sex drive is much higher than average and I would typically prefer to have sex three times a day there have been times when I have not reached orgasm during sex or even lost my erection. This can happen because I am tired, distracted, or just not in the mood. It can happen if I am having a disagreement with my partner or if I'm just not feeling loved or appreciated. When I was younger and less experienced I was a lot more nervous about whether I was doing things the right way and that too interferred with my ability to enjoy sex. It can be nearly impossible to stay aroused and maintain an erection if you can't relax.
Another thing you might think about is having him bring you to orgasm in some other way such as orally, using his fingers, or perhaps a vibrator. This could reduce the pressure of having to perform if he believes that he must be erect to please you
2006-09-01 05:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sindebad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound there is a problem... 3 to 4 nights a week is average to high for a married couple... and especially if the sex is good. Maybe your libido is just higher than his and you need to "take care of yourself" on occasion. Nothing wrong with that ;)
2006-09-01 05:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are healthy and enjoy doing it with your husband.Men always are tired of performing and you are lucky that he does 4 times a week while the average American does 2 times a week. May be he has stress from work.
2006-09-05 01:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limp Biskit
2006-09-01 05:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by sexyguyno16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a problem every body's different don't compare your sex life to anyone elses especially the the lies on TV, I say be happy you have a good thing and don't dwell on what you don't have
2006-09-01 05:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish and inconsiderate...he knows that his dik game is good and is basically rashing the goods. Buy yourself a toy and when he acts like he can't go another round....roll over and have fun without his azz. That'll teach his stingy azz not to play games with you!
2006-09-01 05:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is u r sex crazy get a job
2006-09-04 21:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low battery charge. Take him to a doctor for a checkup. Something may be wrong that is correctable.
2006-09-01 17:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't complain! I've been married almost 10 years, and I'm lucky if I get it once a month!!
If you're left unsatisfied - invest in a vibrator... together...
2006-09-01 05:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋