She loves you, you love her. Life is superb together. But there is no together because she has husband and kids. She decides to pull back and get on with her life and previous commitment. But she loves you very much and she cries for not being with you. And you cry for not being with her. And heart aches and painfully missing ... and revolting against your miserable destiny...Her husband demands her back...you are absolutely powerless. You cannot see her, be with her or whatever. You feel like dying everyday because of this. HOW on earth do you cope with that situation?
2006-08-31 22:37:31 · 11 answers · asked by Big T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
God it hurts doesnt it. I know the pain is unbearable right now, regardless of the fact she is married, regardless of any of the facts, you have lost someone who you think was 'the one', and someone who you felt especially strong about.
That is physically and mentally the worst of experiences. However I can tell you some things for sure. If it hasnt worked out and she is back with her husband, then she logves her kids more than she loves you, which is correct.
However, where does that leave you? It leaves you open to find a woman with less ties where you can be the centre of her world. True love does conquer all, and if it doesnt, then it wasnt real love, it may have its difficulties, but I believe soulmates dont have external forces pulling them apart like you have here.
The best and often only way to get through this is feel the pain, give it time, CEASE ALL CONTACT with this woman.
With Time believe me it will heal, you will find someone better and you will wonder how you ever imagined this would work.
Please believe me it will pass. Keep your chin up, babe. Good Luck x x x x x x x x x x x
2006-09-01 00:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why they say NEVER GET INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED WOMAN! Other than the fact that it just breeches a moral code in pretty much every country on the face of this planet. Get over your heartache cuz that chick is where she wants to be. No matter how much she says she loves you, if she wanted to be with you, then she would. She wants to be with her husband and family. She obviously realized that she made a mistake and wants to repair the damage she did with you. Don't be a homewrecker...that's about as low as you can get. Move on, and next time when they say they're married...don't think that's ok!
2006-09-01 05:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant.
Do you watch that soap opera called Passions? With Ethan and Teresa hehe thats the same kinda thing. You missed the train. You can not be together. And pressuring her will only make it worse.
Stop and think about her children. In the end you are asking her to choose them or you.
Good Luck mending this whopper of a broken heart.
2006-09-01 05:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by IveBeenHereSinceYesturday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go (at least until she ends up possibly divorcing her husband, someday). But what you asked was about how to cope... hmmm... If I were going to try to let someone like that go, without being absolutely miserable, I would absolutely CEASE ALL CONTACT. Put her pictures away, etc. And TRY to move on with your life. If you're really so miserable that you feel like dying, then you should go talk to someone who could counsel you. When you start getting blah, just talk yourself back to reality. It'll only mess you up if you allow yourself to dwell on it. Try to find some sort of entertainment for yourself.
2006-09-01 05:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lylac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im was married and have two kids and i separated from my husband cause i could not stand the pain of not being with the man i love and never regretted it, i would call my love every little chance i got and i would be in tears cause i missed him so badly but i was trying to make things work with my husband and it was impossible you cant help how you feel about someone, that was two years ago and im with my love to this day and my kids love him sometimes you have to follow your heart
2006-09-01 06:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you shouldnt be there in the first place...
If shes still married to the guy and your in love with a married woman, dude your commiting adultery and that is SICK!!
You deserve to die in misery!
You should be in a relationship with a woman who isnt already in one. Your doing the devils dirty work
If she had divorced him and theres no guy in her life then she may have a chance to re-built her relationship with you but you have to accept her kids. If you dont accept her kids and you only love her. then ask yourself, can you bare the to live with yourself if the mother abandons her children for you?
If she does abandon her kids then ask yourself this, if a woman like that is willing to leave her kids, what makes you think she wont do the same to you?
Her kids are her own roots, mothers love their children more than they love anything in the world, theyd sacrifice their own lives for their kids...well you know what i mean.
2006-09-01 05:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little lite went on in my head... Sounds like an addiction.
perhaps you are like some of us who choose what we cant or shouldnt have. study or look up what you can everythinng you can find on [fear of intimacy or fear of long term relationships.] take a look at your parent relationship, maybe that could provide
a clue. Hope any of this will help calm your anxiety.
Vent your love on a new puppy, a cousins kid, do art.
Love is within you, yours to give, our ego jams it up with
preferences.
2006-09-01 06:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by chupracabra'smama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad those kids aren't yours, crying and whining and wanting something at the same time. Honey you think you're crying now, wait'll them kids start in.
2006-09-01 06:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldnt have gotten involvd in the first place. get on with life find another, unless you enjoy being miserable
2006-09-01 05:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2006-09-01 06:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋