She was crying in low tone but I still heard her sulking, she was in one of the stalls, but I got out beforeshe came out, I waited in the hall way to see who she was, She is in my grade, she is a very shy and quiet and bullied by other girls and some boys..
Should I do something, should I tell a teacher ..when she came out she looked bruised but i couldn't tell if it was that or her smeared mascara or makeup.What should I do or what should I do to help her?
2006-08-31 22:17:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be her friend and tell a teacher.
2006-08-31 22:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by mortisia2121 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww that's really nice of you being concerned to someone. I'm proud of you.
But anyways, why don't approach her and talk to her. Maybe what she needs right now is someone to comfort her and concerned for her like you. It depends on how you approach her though.. I think telling the teachers would be her last option. She might just need a new friend--someone who would teach or encourage her on how to deal with the bullies (not in a vengeful way...) like starting with herself.
But if one day the bullies did something to her (even to others) that's really way beyond the line, then maybe it's time telling the teachers as a concerned student and a good and responsible person. :)
2006-08-31 22:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you should take her aside and tell her that you heard her crying in the toilets. Ask her if she's ok and if she needs someone to talk to then you are always there. Then she will feel that she has atleast SOMEONE who cares. Don't tell a teacher, because if she's not telling the teacher then it would be wrong for you to do it. If she is being bullied, suggest to her to go and tell a teacher who could stop the bullying.
2006-08-31 22:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like she needs a friend . go for it. i woulda asked her right then. it sucks to have to cry. it pisses me off so much i have to go to anger management.
seriously it sounds like her mama never told her to stick up for herself. there are many ways of making people know that you are not to be phucked with maybe you could give her encouragement. and mayyyybeee a lil help behind the scenes. if someone is talking sshiit bout her. ask them like where they get their information . or whatever you can to corner the schitalker. maybe she a real bwitch? oh and cornering a schitalker in front of others puts them instantly on a defence. so have more info or questions to shoot em down with. that can be so much fun. ya can get hurt that way later tho.manipulation can be done in an arsenal of ways. tact is good to have .tactics too.i'm not good at it but i've seen people that are. well... politicians do it every waking moment.you don't think she was just fishin for a guy? that would a pretty good way to find a bf. especially the chump kind.
good luck to you and her.
2006-08-31 22:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is go talk to her instead of a teacher since this will embarrass her even more..
Ask her what happened and let her know that you want to be a friend.. get to know her and make her feel confident so that she can stand up against the ppl who bully her..
She needs someone she can trust and someone to open her eyes for her..She has to feel that she is good and not unimportant .. and you as a guy offer her protection.. and be her friend.. that is what she needs in my opinion.. a friend..
Good luck =)
2006-08-31 22:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sensitive, caring person you are! I think it may be a good idea to relay your story to a teacher. If you're indirectly helping someone who's being bullied, then you're doing a good thing. Have you tried speaking to the girl? Perhaps she's looking for a friend she can confide in, which is often easier than her going to her parents or teachers.
2006-08-31 22:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by shauny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not speak to her and let her know if she needs to talk that you will listen. In addition maybe go to the school counselor and let them know what you saw. She may need a out look and someone to talk to. I really think its sad that kids want to bully others. There is no point in it.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-08-31 22:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first start by trying to become her friend and to become someone she can talk to when she needs help once you have done this the see if she talks about that day in the bathroom then if she would like you and her both go to a teacher.
2006-08-31 22:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were you and this is what i have done ecxept i was bullied, i went up to tthe bully and almost broke his nose, and i oncw broke an 18 year olds nose and he had a knife, but im half a psycho so you can 1 tell 2 stand up for her 3 leave it, i would do 2 but thats me
2006-08-31 22:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to contact her.. invite her to drink a coffee.. and tell her that u saw her cry and u would like to help her in being her friend..
If she has no friends or anyone to talk with she can know that u r there and can listen her problems and try to find a solution..
2006-08-31 22:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd waste no time and let a guidance counselor know. They're trained on how to deal with these situations. You should feel good about yourself for doing it too. Don't listen to anyone that tells you any different.
2006-08-31 22:21:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋