What does it mean to be "emotionally abused" by your mother?

Answer 1

Negativity to the max!
Nothing said is positive. ALWAYS has a negative connotation!
Guilt trips. "For all the things I have done for you..."
Name calling Fat, Lazy, No-good-for-nothing
Not being genuine. False.
Hypocrite "Do as I say, NOT as I do!"

Answer 2

Basically, it means that she hurt you deeply by the negative things she said and undermined your confidence instead of building you up. If you had your mom pound a nail into a board everytime she said something that made you feel terrible about yourself and then she said sorry and pulled each one out...the board would still be a mess. Words can really hurt. The good news is that if you think this is happening to you or a friend, remember that this parent may have good qualities but parenting is just not one of them. They are very insecure to resort to this behavior. You don't have to be a "victim" Once you can identify the behavior you can deny and defy it. Seek out a teacher or counselor at school They can give you good advice and strategies to deal with this garbage PLUS they will also be able to point out your very good points! Take Care! :)

Answer 3

It means she didn't abuse you physically, as in beat you or hit you, but she abused you emotionally. She might call you worthless, insult you or call you names, etc. Just thinks that would really make a person hurt, without actually touching you.

Answer 4

"Thanks Minkus!
Glad you asked a question that I know something about.
Many of us know well what "emotionally abused" means from the female parent.
It's known as a "blaming dance" and Mothers really know how to apply it. Most Mothers use it to a greater or lesser degree.

Emotional abuse can range from a simple verbal insult to an extreme form of punishment. The following are examples of emotional child abuse:

ignoring, withdrawal of attention, or rejection.

lack of physical affection such as hugs

lack of positive reinforcement, such as praise or saying "I love you"

yelling or screaming

threatening or frightening

negative comparisons to others

belittling; telling the child he or she is "no good," "worthless," "bad," or "a mistake"

shaming, humiliating, or name-calling

habitual blaming

using extreme forms of punishment, such as confinement to a closet or dark room, tying to a chair for long periods of time, or terrorizing a child

child exploitation, such as child labor

witnessing the physical abuse of others

child kidnapping

parental child abduction, or child stealing (see Parent Child Abduction is Child Abuse)


I'm gonna use this answer to supply a few statistics about who gets most of the "blame" during the "dance."

55% of the parents who kill their children are Mothers. Mothers kill male children much more often than female.

Mothers take sides, more often, with female children during and after family arguments."

We found that mothers who killed their children fit into five categories: mothers who kill through neglect, mothers who kill through abuse, mothers who commit neonaticide, mothers who are assisted or coerced into killing their child and mothers who purposefully kill their child. This last category would describe the acts of Andrea Yates and is perhaps the most difficult to fathom, especially since women in this category were frequently described as devoted to their children.

Frequently, women who deliberately killed their child or children suffered from some form of mental illness or had a history of mental illness, sometimes related to the pregnancy or postpartum period. Combined with the social isolation most mothers suffer following the birth of a child, it is not difficult to understand the stress they experienced. Some attempted or discussed suicide. In fact, many women in this category attempted murder/suicide, and some of them succeeded.

Answer 5

be letted down her say ur ugly or say bad things about u make u feel bad! Hates u never really cooks dinner say evil things to u ! Messing wth ur emotions not caring ect. using abusive words. Can't really explain as well.

Answer 6

It means that though she didn't physically abuse you that she said things like you can't ever do anything right, I sorry you ever born etc. Also by not loving you and letting you know that she values you

Answer 7

To be continually hurt by her on the inside, attacking your emotional self by not causing physical harm, but by causing emotional harm. Words can harm near as bad as a slap.

Answer 8

Any kind of name calling and general put downs would be emotional abuse if it makes you feel like crap.

Answer 9

Ridiculed, repeatedly,
Constantly put down,
Being called names,

Answer 10

Constantly being berated, (told that you're worthless, being criticized, disrespected etc.) If your clearly being treated differently,( in a negative way) from your siblings or others.