2006-08-31 21:55:32 · 20 answers · asked by david c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she has realized that you and her are not compatible.
has she changed? or have you?
2006-08-31 21:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by jake cigar™ is retired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've been around. had quite a few long term thangs.i dont think many couples are compatable. you havent heard the term "gotta work on it"? i. myself think that i cant stay after 6-8 years . i would like to. but i still change too much . my relationships always grow. they just grow apart.i still love em all . and still stay in touch with allot of em.its all good
i would ask her to come out with some ideas if you really want her. just ask if she wants to say something more than "incompatable"don't pressure too much. but show feelings. you can't learn how they think without asking.she might be right or she might be trying to open up the relationship a bit. if she can trust that she can talk to you . and that you are trying to understand. thats allot.or thinks you do understand. you can never understand fully cause werds mean different things to girls as boys.kinda like when ya first meet you ask her out to dinner and a movie.
what you are really sayin is dinner ,movie, get laid.
i've noticed incompatable could mean anything. mostly like she wants to maybe look around . or she wants a certain reaction maybe. but ya gotta mine for a bottom line and not snivel if it's the wrong one. good luck
be brave lil buchaneer. ha!
2006-08-31 22:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is commonly regarded as the honeymoon period, when both partners are all starry-eyed, and therefore willing to make compromises and tolerate differences for the sake of being together.
Your girlfriend is coming down to earth, and realising that this is what her life is going to be like from now on, if she stays with you. And there's something about it she doesn't like.
What kind of things did she do before she met you? Has she given up some activities to spend time with you? Has she made compromises to be with you? Has she been a doormat, doing everything you want (her fault if she has, btw)?
If the answer to any of that is yes, then there's your answer. If she wants to stay with you, she has to go on giving up activities or beliefs or work that are important to her, and she's not prepared to do that.
2006-08-31 22:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that she's thinking that you're not compatible... it sounds mean but most likely what she told you is how she feels. 2 years is a long time, people change, people grow... hopefully they grow together, but sometimes they grow apart. Be thankful that she told you now and didn't string you along for a couple more years... it may not feel like it right now, but sometimes its better to be hurt now than later. Hang in there and find yourself a woman that will treat you how you deserve!
2006-08-31 21:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that those two years were happy for both of you?
Sometimes, we can not see our partner's view and we believe that everything is all right, although it is not. This happens especially to couples who have been together from young ages and when they grow up and mature, see things with a different eye.
If you want to stay with her, talk to her and find out what her complaints are; if you can deal with what she says, try to fix things up.
If you see she's determined to split, you choose whether you can be just friends or you don't talk to her for life.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 22:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People take 3 seconds to fall in love, but may take 30 years to find whether both are compatible. Be grateful she tell you now.
2006-08-31 22:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something must have happen. Ask her what has happen or if she is in love with another man? Most problems can be solve thru communications. Since you have know her for 2 years, then I think it shouldn't be a problem talking to her. Wish you all the best.
2006-08-31 21:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, after two years, she has come to the conclusion that you are incompatible together, and it comes as a surprise to you, then perhaps she is right...only one of you has been happy.
2006-08-31 22:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by cheek peas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when this happen it always that they have someone else!! these never fails.. If you really loves her go fight for her love.
May the best man win.
Never give up if you think she is the one that makes your heart tingle!!!
2006-08-31 22:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) She was tired of waiting for the ring, or B) She lost interest in you because you failed to keep things exciting
2006-08-31 22:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all
Woman purgative, changing her mind
Think of it like this, when one door closes, another one will always open
2006-08-31 22:16:49 · answer #11 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋