so, like this guy who says I'm his best friend is pushing the limit. A few months ago he let go of the wheel to the car (while driving on the freeway) to eat my sandwich, and we crash and I break my neck, he comes out fine... the other passenger was ok also.
but soon afterwards i hear rumors bout the accident being my fault, cuz it was my sandwich... I was like WTF does ownership of the sandwich have to do with driving ability!? but any way he denied it... then recently, he told my girlfriend of two years that he loves her and when she marries me, it'll be the worst day of his life... she told me, he said he was tripping and was sorry... few days later, he does it again... and this time she even plays the message he left...
He says he was wrong and wants to settle things.... he never really apologized, and I can't realy trust him (cuz what he's done)but on the other hand I've never been one to hold grudges... should I stay his friend??? just asking for input...
2006-08-31 21:49:47 · 5 answers · asked by Akwat'k Ink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This fewl thinks he's better than you. As a matter of fact, he thinks you are his servant, fall guy, slave, piece of dirt, etc.
Get rid of him, like yesterday. If you see him coming down the street, cross over to the other side so you don't have to wave. He means no good to you, and he is at least good enough to show you clearly who he is and how low he will go.
Tell him if he calls your girlfriend again, or even says hi to her in a crowd, you will break his kneecaps and ensure that he has no grandchildren.
But, I agree with you; don't hold any grudges; forget he exists.
2006-08-31 21:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose your friends, unlike family...where we might put up with a lot more crap from family because they're blood, if a friend doesn't respect you, or generally if they treat you in a way you wouldn't treat them, to me they're not a friend....Also, a friend isn't a marriage--no vow of commitment of "till death do us part", calling someone your friend or mistakenly thinking they were your friend doesn't obligate you to a lifelong relationship if they mess with you or mistreat you---even marriages end in divorce for people saying enough is enough! I just cut ties with a couple of "friends" who had major boundary issues...to me, friendship shouldn't be a source of stress---it should be an enjoyable reprieve from the stress of the world! And is based on trust and respect!
If you keep this guy in your life, you'll have many more stories like this to tell....you already got a broken neck from his folly, (did he even ASK if he could eat your sandwich?) who knows what more damage he could do to your life? Has he tried to sabotage your job yet? With a friend like this, who needs enemies?
I don't hold grudges either....just cut him loose, tell him sorry dude, being friends to me means trust, and someone who treats me with the respect I treat them, we can't be friends but I wish you well...or, you could just blow him off & not answer his calls or the door when he comes---always say you're busy if you see him--sooner or later he'll get the message & move on...
If this guy is really sorry, it'll be a lesson he learned and maybe not do it in the future with his other friends...and meanwhile, choose friends who are more on the same page as you when it comes to friendship....anymore, I gotta get to know someone for a WHILE before I even give them the title of "friend"--that's what happens since I had one too many experiences with these boundary-invading "friends!" I told the last one I let go she needs a therapy to work on her boundary issues, not a friend....but the good friends I have, I don't need to protect my boundaries constantly when I'm around them, or ever tell them "you're out of line"---it's all unspoken with them, the respect---they're the ones I know are my true friends! All the rest need therapy---I'm not gonna deal with their issues--it's too exhausting!
2006-09-01 01:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by LogicalReason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he was your friend and he still wants to be your friends,then gets a group of your friends around and have him to tell the real story and after he tells the story then Full apologize.THEN if not just walk away from with all watching.
2006-08-31 22:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the nuts
2006-09-04 21:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man get your dignity back and KICK HIS AZZZZZZZZZZZZ
2006-08-31 22:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋