How'd you come out to your family?

Question

I might be needing some ideas soon. But I don't even know how they would take it. My parents are seperated my mom's really religious and my dad's extremely old fashioned. They've both bashed my gay cousin before. I'm kinda scared!

Answer 1

I came out to my mom while we were driving (probably lucky I was behind the wheel) to my brother's basketball game. She took it quietly, only said that it was probably a phase, that I didn't know what I was talking about, and that I'd grow out of it. I never ended up telling my dad or my extended family, so my mom must have passed the news. Currently, my extended family is all pretty much ok with it and very supportive, my parents are the ones that are the most unsupportive.

Nothing says that you HAVE to come out to your family. Some people live in the closet for years, and that's ok. I thought about it and thought about it and practiced in my head for a very long time before I ever actually said anything. There was just a moment that clicked and I knew it was the right time. From others who I've discussed coming out with, they said the same thing. They just knew it was the right time.

I know how scary it can be but I also think that usually the rewards of honestly being yourself out-weigh any of the negatives. I wish you the very best of luck and feel free to contact me anytime.

~ FR

Answer 2

Um, don't "offer" the information and remember the phraze, "Don't ask the question if you really don't want to know the answer."

It isn't easy, some will simply disown you (for a little while) others go completely nuclear. Then theres the whole blaming "others" issue, followed closely by blaming themselves........


Do some research thru PFLAG. They could give far better advice because they are Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays, I doubt there isn't much they Haven't seen.....

Answer 3

Jeff,
I really don't understand the rush to tell your parents. When these questions are asked, it's always left out why?

I don't know how old you are. I don't know if you are going to live with them for a while (either one). So what's the rush? Would you enjoy making things more complicated for them? They are separated, they have made things more complicated for you, is that it? Revenge?

I would, without any more information, would suggest to you that you do not tell them crap. They decided to raise you in a broken home, and you have either gay or bi tendencies, keep them to yourself until you are out of the house. Then tell them. Okay? Don't make things so difficult for yourself. You are indicating that you can't trust them. So while fuel the fire at a time when they can retaliate?

Smarter, dude. Not harder!

Answer 4

I brought my girlfriend home. She knew the situation. She was great . My mom got to know her and loved her as one of her own kids. The down side is that Mom was bragging about her and outed me to my grandparents. No biggie there. They just wanted me to be happy. I have to add this tho...I come from a very four square gospel, old school family. I was very lucky.

Answer 5

Ooh. Tough situation... I personally am not homosexual but however you do it, be careful.

Is your mother religious in a "positive" way like "love thy neighbor" and all that? Or more like "punish sinners?"

Christianity teaches that all people should be loved the same, even enemies. Yet many overlook that important fact. You'd best use that fact to your advantage if you were to come out to a religious parent if he/she is Christian.

Answer 6

tell them over the phone, so if they get too dramatic over it, you can just hang up!

PS: kudos to bcrockrebel! a straight man not afraid to help his gay fellow man out! u Rock!

Answer 7

I haven't yet. I'm waiting til I meet someone to show them that I found someone to love. If you have someone, it'll be easier

Answer 8

Bring your significant other home to meet them!!

Answer 9

You tell them

Answer 10

Damm , by saying you are going to a place where it is very HOT