My partner is unbearable to me when he is drunk. He wanders the street looking to get into fights, says hurtful things to me, breaks things and binge drinks for days. This only happens once every few months, but it is awful when it does. He is perfect the rest of the time. and thoughtful. Any body any advise?
2006-08-31 21:30:05 · 13 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I went through a similiar situation with my ex-fiancee. It took me a long time but I eventually realized that he's not a different person when he's drinking... he's still the same person he just acts differently and his actions were not something that I was willing to subject myself to. Have a talk with him, tell him how you feel and how his actions hurt you... if he doesn't care or isn't willing to maybe drink less around you or try to be less hurtful, then don't waste your time!
2006-08-31 21:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand my husband gets to be a happy drunk that's like to look for fights and other **** but when he comes home he wont leave me alone and if i Say anything wrong he gets the shits and has little digs at me its those little digs that i hate there has only ever been a few times where he has hurt me nothing like hitting me just throwing me into walls that's how i spent mothers day fighting with him getting thrown into walls the only way i can get him to stop is to tell him me and the kids are going and that he has to stop drinking but that does not work most of the time but now he has stopped drinking and things are slowly getting better see i went to his mum and his boss and told them they must have said something cause now when he goes out he suxs up to me big time to make sore I'm OK with it and leaves me all his money so try that telling family or friends but my heart goes out to you and i hope things get better.
2006-08-31 22:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I'm a guy, but I have to answer this one. I've been that guy you're with before. My advise to you is to treat him like a child when he's drunk. He will subconsciously head away from drinking, or you to save his self esteem. Either way you win. If he heads away from you you win because you'll quit wasting your time with someone who doesn't put you ahead of everything else.
2006-08-31 21:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you put up with it? He seems to be very immature and you know from experience that this will continue to happen.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-08-31 21:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with a pisshead. He isnt much fun. I reckon that they say what they really feel when they are drunk. Not only that, someone who gets drunk and abusive and is looking for fights is not someone you want as a partner.
2006-08-31 21:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Just John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl what you doing with your life, you should be asking this question in the past terms,
Like "MY EX BOYFRIEND USED TO"this is not a one off,the guy has a problem and its only a matter of time before he turns on you,
tell him to get help now, both for drink problems and anger management,if he is unwilling or refuses dump him quicker than a dog pooh,
life is to short for wasting it on loosers,
tell him to buck up or pack up..
good luck and i hope it turns out well
2006-08-31 21:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him fast.....run! I had one just like that only he starting beating on me after a while. Your self-esteem goes right down the toilet. LEAVE! Please. You deserve better than that. YOU know it too. It's a vicious circle of stress and uncertainty. You're living on quicksand.
2006-08-31 21:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you tell him what happened when he's sober? Does he remember?
If he can't remember what he did, then dump him. He's already heading for alcoholism and it will only get more frequent. You deserve better.
2006-08-31 21:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is an alcoholic, he needs professional help. If he doesn't get help then I'd leave him.
2006-08-31 21:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was perfect then he wouldnt be doing this to you! his only thinking of himself and your there to clean up.move on with your life,there is somebody better then him,you have to belive it.
2006-08-31 21:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by cupcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋