Really confused and this desperate?

Question

I've wanted to talk to so many people about this for so long but it turns out that im to much of a chicken **** to do it i cant talk to no one so now im on this thing trying to explain how i feel to a bunch of strangers everyone gets that feeling when they just snap, well i snapped and i took off running after a physical fight with my mom which was not suppose to happen now its three days later and im in the basement of one of my brother's friends house on this crappy computer and im lucky that it didnt crap out on be way before i started typing all this we were really close but now i dont even want to be at home or be near her especially when shes shoving school down my throat and listening to my dumbass parents fight all the time so now im 16 staying with some 20 year old guy i dont even trust and im thinking that its to late to turn back now so i wanted to no did i mess up by not hanging on for my last two years

Answer 1

Well here goes,,go back home, tell your parents to go sit down and tell them how you feel everytime they fight. Communication is the answer to all this. If you cant do that, maybe talking to your school guidance could help. maybe they can help you more than we can")

Answer 2

Hi Cassie

Know you feel super frustrated now. I guess I went through this when I was a kid as well. I felt super hurt one night over a squabble with my mum involving my bro.

So the whole night I cried myself to sleep. And I was thinking over and over how I should just be independent and start afresh by packing my bags.

It didn't work that way cause, in the end I realised I was never gonna survive by myself outside. Too many dangers for young adolescents as well as restrictions on what I could do. Society and the law just isn't cut to work your way. Think about the minimal employment age as well as the need for a guardian's agreement, etc.

More important, packing my bags would just be running away from the problem. I didn't do it. I stayed, sorted things out. I have to admit things aren't in the best way still, but at least since staying home, I've managed to get some changes done my way.

I really hope you'll go home, not that it's about pride. But because by going home you're giving yourself the chance to sort things out like I had. It may not be the best solution, but at least the problem will not follow you the rest of your life.

Answer 3

Go home darling your mother loves you and always will your her daughter!Its called unconditional love.She wants you to be safe and she wants the best for you!I know when your young you think you know it all and your parents are against you and dont understand!!But believe me they do they were young once and believe me they have done the same things you have and alot of times parents dont tell there kids that cause they are afraid you wont understand and you may think its allright to do it too,or they are ashamed!SO go home honey it wont be long till your 18 and you see how crappy this ole world is so stay home as long as you can and respect your parents.Grow up and im not trying to sound mean im just telling ya to show some respect and understand there point.Talk to your mom for a change without yelling or fighting .listen!!I wish ya the best and you have no bussiness around a 20 year old he sounds like a perv and im sure he is ,cause no decent man would want to be around a kid unless they have bad intentions.I wish ya the best !

Answer 4

You are in a tough spot, and it is hard to know what to do. Where you are is not where you really want to be or you wouldn't be asking strangers as you stated. Parents fighting. Is it over you? Have you been slacking in school, not going, having a hard time in school etc..? Parents fighting, oh dear how well I remember those days in my house! Stress ya' out for real!! They don't see it cause they are caught up in their stuff, if it has nothing to do with them arguing over you....Call your mother! At least talk to her and try not to get into a screaming match. You can't live where you are forever, well guess you could, but that isn't going to make your life a good one. You do need an education, it does make a difference in what kind of job you'll need so your life is easier and not one filled with struggling to make ends meet. You can Always finish your education, and if you have pretty decent parents who are just having a hard time right now, you can always fix things! Not perfect, but better than living in some dudes basement......

Answer 5

I know what u mean due to I did the same when I was 18 years old, I leaved for 4 years without talking with my mother during all this time.. We had a real bad fighting after mu father's death.. So I moved away and I sweared never back... but life is curious.. and at least I back home after my University.. (4 yrs) and I apologized to my mom due to that she coudn't understand my sorrow at that moment because she was in the same situation but I knew that I missed her too much.. to day I'm 35yrs old, I've a daughter (8yrs), and I live away from my mom due to we are very different but I call her every day twice.. and if she has a problem she looks for me and look for her.. MOTHER is alway MOTHER and there is only a mother and a love of mother noone can replace.. So my dear go back home, talk with ur parents, explain them how you feel and why, and try to reach a high level of understanding and comunication... try to understand them too.. they have a lot of questions, worries, frustrations.. that you don't know at the moment but you will live later... NOT BEING selfish.. you are important sure, but they are yr parents... and at least (good or bad ) they love u and sacrifice their life for u and ur brothers.. believe me that I'm a daughter and a Mother... GO HOME:::::

Answer 6

It's not too late to turn back. Although you may have to 'eat some crow' to get back in your house. Fighting with your mom is not the smartest thing you could have done. You should have left sooner before it got to that point and cooled down. What happens next it up to you....Do you want a job flippen burgers, hidding out in some dingy basement?.........

Answer 7

First of all u dotn trust this 20yr old, pls go home to yr parents as soon as possible, walk in that door apologise to yr mum and hug her shes a mum she will forgive u , sit down and talk to her, telll her hiw much their fightign hurts u , sit donwn with both yr parents, expalin to them, secondly finish scool, be everythign u wanna be, move out, have yr own fly and try not to mak the same mistakes yr parents made goodluck yr a strong one, just make yr mind, get up and go home all will be well.

Answer 8

at your age your feeling the basic teen stuff. Pull away from adults,,. there all 'weird ' pull away and find who You are. BUUUt
you really cant take it literally. leaving the safety of your home and family puts yu in danger. our world is scarey enuff without adding to it. THIS TOO SHALL PASS,/ is a fine expression.
your job is to be a student, learn manners, and practice being an adult. thats your job. parents is to house, feed and guide you
towards the best person you can be. bad decisions are made when we're angry, negative, and vulnerable. decisions that can
change your life as you knew it

Answer 9

if you want give me a call i have several daughters and think i have heard it all -if you dont feel safe there you should have left but -dont sound good now either--i'll do what i can to help you --let me know

Answer 10

if you can financially manage your self it is OK to be away from your parents ,other wise you may have to go back and patch up and concentrate on school