Would you rather have a disabled child or no children at all?

Answer 1

I hate to get serious on you, here, but you asked a serious question.

You've never met a disabled child. I can tell. If you had, you'd maybe even take a disabled child over a healthy one. I've met my share of disadvantaged kids, and they ALL have the most delightful personalities that you will EVER meet. They will leave their mark on you, and change you forever.

The most positive outlook, on anyone you'll ever meet, is on someone who's disadvantaged, or dying.

Answer 2

None. Seeing a child suffer every day, would be very difficult to deal, heartbreaking at times, frustrating with AND if they'd need permanent care for the rest of their life...you'd worry about what would happen when you die...will they be mistreated, institutionalised etc.

I'm not saying that, if my children were to become disabled, I'd abandon them or wish them dead...but the love and emotional connection is already there, as there also would be if you were pregnant for 9 months.

In the scenario YOU give...there is no connection with the "child" so given that....I would say no, I wouldnt go out of my way to take on a disabled child....unless the disability was an easily manageable one and the interaction was rewarding.

Answer 3

I would want a "disabled" child rather than no child. It all really depends on your definition of "disabled". My little brother is Autistic and we get through each day. Autism may be considered a neurological disorder or a "disability" but this little kid is a genius at 6 yrs old! (Is that a disability? Being very intelligent for his age?) Sure we have struggles and he throws fits over nothing but I still love him to death and wouldn't trade him for... ok maybe a neurotypical sister but really. plus he/we get benefits at themeparks! (front of the line passes haha!)

I also do volunteer work at REINS which is a therapeutic horseback riding center for the disabled, be they young or old. It is such a joy for me to see these people thrive! With any typical person, explaining what you want can be very simple. Same goes for walking. But for a disabled person, even telling someone hello can be a challenge, and walking, for some, even more so. when a typical person does something such as these it is basically of no real meaning. But when a disabled person overcomes something such as walking or talking, it can literally be so uplifting it brings tears to your eyes (it has for me)!

Besides, whether their disability be mild or severe, any child should have a family willing to love and care for them. They don't always suffer for those who say that all disabled children do. My brother is probably the most life-loving child I've ever met. He doesn't always understand right from wrong; he just wants to enjoy himself and have fun. He doesn't care that people think he's strange. He's almost completely carefree with the exception of his intolerance for alterations.

Living and working with miraculous, strong people has truly changed my life. if I had had a typical brother I probably wouldn't even know what Autism is and how hard life can be. I would probably be some stupid spoiled brat had Scott not come along. People don't understand how truly amazing these strong-hearted, strong-willed "disabled" people are. Ignorant people can't see the truly beautiful things in life, such as having a family, and friends and being healthy. Instead, they're too caught up in, "o my hair's messed up," and "o my god this sux I can't go to the mall cuz I have to get a manicure." People who experience what it is like for mentally and physically disabled have a whole new uplifted perspective on life.

and omg people

Every and any child should be acceptable to any family that has the heart to care for anyone or anything.

Answer 4

People will say will answer " no children " rather than a disabled ones but they did not experience the deep sadness when a couple cannot have a child ( they would rather have a disabled child).

Answer 5

Beethoven was one of eight disabled kids. That could be a good enough reason to raise a disabled child, you never know what kind of person they will become. But it's not really like you have a choice, when it happens. My brother has a severe case of ADHD and ODD and some other problems with writing. It was difficult on me to live with him. He got to go to a private school and I had a public education. I'm actually jealous that he got a chance to learn more than I ever could, even though I could have done wonders, given the opportunity. Having a kid changes everything, as the commercial says. But as far as my experience goes, my relationship with my brother was such a dismal one, that I can't bear to have any kids, no matter how they turn out. Also, It was extremely hard on my family, especially financially.

Answer 6

If I have to choose the above two selection, I'd rather choose to have no children at all. Because to see a disable child is hard for me. I must prefer to be the disable one than my child.

Answer 7

I think the real point is that no one wants a child of theirs to be disabled. Yet, once your child IS born and IS disabled in some way, your outlook changes FOREVER.

I would never want no child compared to the miracle known as my son. He had a congenital heart defect and has had 3 open heart surgeries. He is a living miracle as his heart started growing out of a defect--very rare. So, if I would have sat around thinking--man, wish he was normal--what a dork I would be now.

He is actually super healthy now and you'd never know anything ever happened.

Life is life no matter what.

Answer 8

I would rather have a disabled child because it is not just the child getting help it is also me getting help with the child.

Answer 9

If the child wasn't too badly disabled, l would like the child to have a good quality of life.

Answer 10

Since I have PCOS I would just be happy to have a child. Warts and all. I have even looked into adopting children (some with disabillities). I wish some people who abuse and kill kids would realize that there are those who want but can't have and would love to have any child reguardless of history and perfection.