Wednesday evening i was sitting and i was doing my project(which i have a deadline for it),the weather was hot that day and fan system of the whole building was down and off.
I really needed to take a shower cause to relieve,but i prefered to sit and do my computer project(Cause on its previous day,was not able to do it).
I was busy with my project,that suddenly i heared the ring of the phone,it was our close neighbour friend in the apartment,which is somehow mine and my mother's friend.
She has recently bought a computer for her only nice little daughter,she asked me on phone,that her daughter doesn't like to learn working with internet from her brother,and prefers to learn that from me,(she and her little daughter are like aunt and cousin for me,as they are our close friends in this apartment).
she said it wont take more than half an hour,and she also mentioned that on thurseday,her doughter is out,that meant she was asking from me to come over and teach her on that present day(wednesday).
I knew that it would be much more than half an hour for me,cause i needed to at least take a shower and stop doing my project.
so i told her that "sorry,but now i cant cause right now i'm busy with project,and as its moving on,so i cant stop,so if couldnt come today,then i will come on friday(as mentioned about about her daughter is not home on its day after(i.e:thurseday)."
OK ,she said thanks and i thought that,when she has told that she doesnt like to learn it from his brother and wants to learn from me,she can wait until the friday in this case.
Well last night(thursday),when my mom returned from the daily walk with this close neighbour mom,she told me that "She said,her daughter learnt it from his brother.
I was just wondering that when somebody ask someone do they really expect to have a ready quick service?
What would you tell them if you see them after this story?(cause we meet eachother almost everyday)..
If you were me what would you do in this case?
2006-08-31 20:42:20 · 10 answers · asked by runny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If your project is very important for school or for your career, then yes you were correct in putting them off until another time. You come first and then everybody is second. If you get into a habit of dropping anything and everything to help others in their menially tasks, then they will expect you to come at their first calling and you will never get anything finished on your on tasks. I hope this helps you.. Good Luck
2006-08-31 21:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in asking her to wait till a more convienient time for you to teach her daughter how to use the internet. Your studies should come first.
People should not expect you to do something straight away when it is a favour done out of kindness. That would be taking you for granted.
Now that the daughter has learnt from the brother afterall, you could tell them that your mother told you she has already learnt some of the internet, and ask if she still needs you to show her anything. If she does, then let her know when you are available.
2006-09-01 03:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would do is proof read what I am writing before I hit send...
As for your question about how you should feel about your neighbor not waiting for you to teach her daughter something on the computer...(?)
It doesn't matter, it's irrelevant. The World doesn't revolve around you and it will not stop when you're gone... Just be happy that your "niece" was able to learn from her brother. You shouldn't be upset about that... you should be happy that your little "niece" was able to learn for her brother -- especially since she doesn't like to learn from him.
There is no issue here. You got your feelings hurt because you couldn't (didn't want to) help someone.
Let it go.
If stuff like this bothers you now, you're gonna grow up to be an obnoxious knows-it-all and no one really likes these types of people because they don't know anything and they're to opinionated -- we only tolerate them.
Good luck with your development.
2006-09-01 03:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by John Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it, it sounds like no big deal. You were doing a project & didn't have time. Yes, she may have preferred to learn from you, but her top priority was prob. just to learn, so when you didn't have the time right then, she just went to the next option. Don't read to much into this. If it bothers you, tell the mom you wish you had had the time, but you were on a deadline. I'm sure she will assure you it was no big deal.
2006-09-01 03:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar things have happened to me and it's hurtful. You feel they don't take you seriously or appreciate you.
Just say, "So how did your daughter do learning from her brother? I was so looking forward to showing her how to use the computer. Did she not want to wait?"
Then see how she responds.
Good luck
2006-09-01 03:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing just tell them that you had to get this project done now not later. I'm sorry but i had no time to play at all maybe next time.
2006-09-01 03:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say u are extremely sorry, and that you would have love to teach her, but there was something else you had to do, without which it would have been possible to teach her. also say that you appreciate the fact that her daughter thinks you are good enuf to teach her, and next time youll definitely be there to teach her. apologize profusely.
2006-09-01 03:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they have a crush on you and wanted to find a way to explore on it and were in the best mood possible at that time,,, either you missed out or they did ,, oh well thats life
2006-09-01 03:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by John C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmm maker ur story short I dont think nobody really wants to read all of this, you suck man.....(lol) you stand alone on this one.
2006-09-01 03:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would ask her if she has changed her mind ,as she should have told you,face her with it .
2006-09-01 03:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋