What have you learned from your experiences going through a divorce?

Question

Have you been through a divorce before?

How many divorces have you been through?

Answer 1

Been through it once. I learned that my X lied and conned more than I ever imagined. I learned to stand up for myself when he hid all our money. I learned that even though I was kind and nice........he was a big time AHooooooooo
I learned to choose a sharp attorney and not the nice sweet one I had chosen. I learned that my husband went to every extent to destroy me financially. I learved that most everything that came out of his mouth was either a lie or a manilupation of whatever was going on.

I learned to NOT trust men. I am leaning that not all men are like my X. I also learned that I had many fair weather friends. I learned that a small town is full of gossip. I learned to make a choice to move somwhere I could be happy and move on.
I learned that I lived his version of life. I learned that I had to take good care of me. I learned to stand on my own two feet.

I have leaned that my X will never change. I have learned that the hurt of his betrayal is beyond what I ever expected.

Most of all I learned that I have the oppertunity to start fresh again and be wise and not make the same mistakes.

I learned that I am beautiful, smart, artistic, creative and worthy of a wonderful man.

Answer 2

Going through it now and what I have learned that the courts are very bias and they have no idea what is best for children really is! If anyone that has not been through this they will find out really quickly that the system is broken and there is no justice. There are reasons why their are so many lawyer jokes because the system produces them. People wonder why they are so many kids on milk boxes with a parent on the run because the system is broken.

Answer 3

I"ve been through one divorce, and it wasn't fun, that's for sure.
I've learned to pick my partner far more carefully. I was very young when I married, and I did it for the wrong reasons. My husband turned out to be abusive and made my life a living hell for years. I finally got up the courage to leave him, and it has really changed my life. I'm now a lot more careful as to who I fall in love with.
Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Once is enough! I learned that people change drastically as soon as the D(ivorce) word is uttered.I gained my independence,my freedom and my happiness.I learned to turn lose of the past and focus on the positive things in the future.Be good to yourself .And dont hold grudges..

Also, when choosing a divorce lawyer you get the representation that you pay for..Mine was top notch..

Answer 5

Sometimes in life u get marreid fr all th wrong reasons and u stick with it cause of fly,society and kids and perhaps thingking it will change fr th beter, but somtimed it does not, no one has the right to steal yr life from u, make it unhappy, so whn u divorce u divorce fr the rigth reasons, its painful but then u move on, leave everythibn behing, forgive and forget and learn from y mistakes, dotn blam anyone, just learn the lessong from there and move on. goodluck

Answer 6

i have been through my parents divorce as a child and felt my father had way to many rights because he was abusive and i just wanted him to go away..

I have went through a divorce myself and i did alot of grieving because i thought at the time and my life that i would be with this person the rest of my life and i have a child with him

I am now remarried and things are good, and my ex and current get along alright..so divorce can be alright i think me and my ex needed time away from each other to be able to get along sometiems it bees like that

Answer 7

Great question....a great way for everyone to reflect. Learned lots from my marriage and divorce. And I'm not gonna make the same mistakes if I decide to get married again.

Answer 8

I've been through one. The main thing I learned was that I wasn't cut out for marriage and that I much prefer being single...so I'll stay single.

Answer 9

I never married but I lived together with my boyfriend for 7 years.. and we broke relationship last year.. for a lot reasons.. I decided to breakdown.. It was hard due to I still loved him but we were very different, we wanted different things from life, different goals to reach, different point of view about politic, parents, family, friendship... I'm not telling u who 's right or wrong, maybe both.. but too many differences.. a lot of misunderstanding, and so fighting.. eventhough we loved each other.. and esteemed and respected.. each other.. So I learned that you can love someone very deeply and truely, but he/she is not the right one for u.. and you have to cross in that narrow to understand what are u looking for.. ther most of times we say I'm looking for love.. It's wrong.. we can get love everywhere and everyone.. but we are looking UNDERSTANDING, COMPLICITY, PASSION, ATTRACTION, HELP, RESPECT, ESTEEM, a lot of other things with LOVE.. That is what I learned from my relationship and breakdown..

Answer 10

I've went through one Divorce and it taught me to be VERY Carefull who I marry next!