I am torn between my boyfriend and my best friend (male).
they are both very good to me in different ways. We have lived
together for years, and get along great! I don't want to hurt either
one. I can't imagine my life without one or the other. I know
they both Love me but morally this doesnt feel right! HELP ME! Before I lose them both.
2006-08-31 20:22:12 · 10 answers · asked by Vtownn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a very important decision. It's possible that your entire life could depend on which one you choose to date right now.
There is always the chance that both of them will like you, and you can date both. As crazy as that sounds, if they really like you they will do it for you.
As for choosing just one, try to go with whomever will treat you the best. I'm normally inclined to say best friend, but it depends on your situation.
Morally it doesn't feel right? By the judgment of whom? If you want to date someone, there's nothing wrong with that. If one of them has a jealousy issue, they are making themselves jealous and making you feel bad for following your instincts and doing what makes you happy.
As for losing them both - I don't think you need to worry. It sounds like you have the choice, and have plenty of time to decide which one you want. I know it seems like a decision you have to make right here right now, but you really have time to reflect and think, and that is what you should do.
Remember, at least you have them both. That's good, isn't it? So go from there and stay cool and confident.
2006-08-31 20:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say write a list on both of them about the good and bad and see who wins... And think abotu it too... If you get with your bestfriend and it doesn't work out chances are that your freindship will never be the way it was... But just think about it.. Its all up to you... Good Luck
2006-09-01 03:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paint the words "unfaithful" and "cheap" across your forehead.
That's how you're acting, your boyfriend doesn't deserve someone that will treat him as bad as you're treating him.
How would you feel if he said he wasn't sure if he'd pick you over his friend or his ex, like you weren't good enough for him anymore.
Good way to respect yourself and getting slim odds of getting someone that will respect you later on.
2006-09-01 03:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear.u hav 2 choose either 1 sooner or later. i know it's reli hard.cos 1 is ur bf,another ur best fren. u don wan hurt both of them.but it's beter 2 hurt 1 person than 3person.
if they ever find out 1 day, u might loose both of them.
2006-09-01 03:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by lyn_shi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am sure u dont love them EQUALLY, one should be more special than the other. i can advise u not to let go of ur dude, he's supposed to be yo best friend, as 4 ur best friend, he will understand and u can still be just friends.
2006-09-01 03:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember boyfriend and best friend are very much different you just misinterpret your feelings there are limitations for both of them so balance your needs. act now before you lost them.
2006-09-01 03:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by graces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be practical...1 person has 2 get hurt...who it has 2 be..its u who has 2 decide...
if u dnt want dat...den back out from both.....& let time show u ...who really loves u....1 of em wud date sme1 very soon..n da 1 who'd still wait for u...is da 1 worth u...but if both start datin sme1...en they both arent worth u...
sounds confusin..but dats da practical approach
2006-09-01 03:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just confused. it is not important that u love both but main thing is that who love u more!!!!!!!! spent some more time with them seperately and find out who wants u more and u will be out of your confusion.
2006-09-01 03:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...why are u asking us this type of question. none of us have ever met them. you aught to make this decision yourself. just think about it for a while...hopefully the answer will come to you.
gud luck...
2006-09-01 03:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give each of them some of your time.
2006-09-01 03:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋