ive known this girl for 5 years. she's been my cousins best friend. i havent been able to talk to her from the get go. i like her so much. my grandfather just passed away, and shes attending the funeral. this may be my only chance to see her. what should i do?
and on a smaller note: is it wrong to be just thinking about her on the day of my grandfathers funeral?
2006-08-31 19:23:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No that's ok - I am sure he would want you to be happy. She make take it strangely though if you were to ask her out right there. I would thank her for coming and then after the funeral I would have your cousin ask her if it would be ok for you to give her a call or if she would like to call you. You could tell your cousin to tell her that you thought it was so sweet of her to come to his funeral and that you have just been interested in her for a while.
You could tell her yourself which is always more mature but I don't see that happening in a clear way at a funeral - unless you all get together after and you get to spend some alone time with her - then you could say to her - hey I think you are really interesting and I would like to get to know you better and then say something like - sorry if the timing is weird but I know I won't see you any time soon - just be yourself - actually I think doing it yourself is the best bet - just wait til after at your house or where your family is all meeting up after the funeral.
2006-08-31 19:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty for how you feel, but you still need to show respect for your grandfather. As for the girl, if a funeral is the only time you think you can talk to her do it, but there may be a better time to do it. At the funeral I suggust that you simply introduce yourself to her, and tell her thanks for coming. Later on, ask your cousin about her, and ask her if you can meet the girl. After that, start hanging out, then if things are working ask her out.
2006-09-01 02:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out
but a funeral is a bit out of place for such things. Not that it's wrong to have feelings for a girl, but if she is sad about your grandfather dying it's definitly not the time or the place. Try talking to her respectfully and ask for here phone number or e mail adress wait a couple of days and then call her back
2006-09-01 02:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its kinda cute. But remember, this is a time of sarrow! Be there for your family at the funeral. If she talks to you, talk back. Maybe plan a day to hang out in the near future.
2006-09-01 02:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go for it if she is available. There is nothing wrong with thinking about her on your grandfather's funeral. The gone are gone, God bless their soul, but you cannot sit still and do nothing.
2006-09-01 02:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by pip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a selfish little prick dont do anything at your grandfathers funeral.
you can thank her for coming and say its nice seeing her and that you are glad she came uh maybe even say that she should keep in touch but dont ask her out or give her more attention than your grandfather!
2006-09-01 02:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well since its ur onli chance dun hesitate grab it!!! chat wif her (kinda small talk) eg: how she doing than try to get her tel no. than ask her out later on..
em....well its not very nice to be thinking bout her during ur g'dads funeral but i guess he ll u'stand just keep it to urself than i guess it ll be ok....good luck ;)
2006-09-01 02:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's kind of selfish and uncaring to be thinking about that at a time like this.
2006-09-01 02:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
bad idea to hit on a girl who is mourning a loved ones death...dont do it....you can speak with her but dont be crude...like "lets go **** in the casket
2006-09-01 02:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by The Question Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋