I am a mom of 7. I gave birth to only 4, but along the way have taken others. Currently, I have 4 children left at home.Two of which are my biological sons aged 13 and 14. My nephew17, who I took in 3 years ago after his mother gave him up.And Missy 18, who came in about 3 months ago. It is a little confusing how I met and came upon this wonderful girl.She had been dating one of my older sons off and on for the past year but broke up a month ago.My son brought her into this family, but she was allowed to move in and stay because she had never had a family to be proud of.We all want to be that family.My son left her here while he had to follow through on a committment in another state then start school in yet another state.Anyway, my 17 year old nephew and Missy have decided they want to date. I dont think it is right.I wonder how it will affect the rest of the family, and no way I look at it does it make it right.Do I discourage this?I have no idea what to do about this.HELP!!!
2006-08-31 19:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by SissyK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
they see each other so much, that's why they have become enamored of each other. neither of them sees anything wrong with it, because they aren't related. but i don't think i could date an older brother's/cousin's ex.
granted, i don't HAVE an older brother, but i would think i'd find it odd.
but it happens when two people start living with eachother that have no reason to see anything wrong with being with each other, both are readily available to each other.
i don't think they last that long, but the more you try to repress it... well, i'm sure you know where i'm going.
2006-08-31 19:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Missy and your nephew should not date. You said you were mom so are they not suppose to be brother and sister. If they don't understand this then Missy should leave your home. Missy should respect your home your son and your family. You let her move in to be a part of your family and maybe your future daughter in law. This is not right and will cause a lot of problems for you. I am sure if your son shows up for a visit Missy will forget about your sons cousin and start dating him again. Remember they do go on and off again. You know if the cousin gets dumped for the older son he will be crushed and there goes your happy home. Then your home will look like something from the Jerry Springer show.
2006-08-31 19:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your son know they are going to date? if he is ok with it- then you may need to relax alittle.
Have you sat them down and discussed how they are almost like brother and sister- and how "feelings" of love may be more " family" then "dating". Sometimes when people are around each other long periods- feelings develop that arent real.
Here is another way to look at it. Are they both good people? Will they both be good for each other? They are both adults- so you really cant forbid dating. If you are against it- they may do it behind your back.
Just talk to them- set some ground rules. Thats all you can really do. if you raised then well- let nature take its course.
2006-08-31 19:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit down with them both missy and your nephew and let them know this is wrong, and that it may cause confusion, and trouble in the family especially when your son finds out, i sure they will understand if they are talked to, does your son know? how does he feel about it?
2006-08-31 19:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discorage and explain how you feel to girl and nephew seperatly make them see it from your side if they prusuet to them let them know your consiquens
2006-08-31 19:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋