im 15 and my stepdad i just moved in with him like a month ago n ive never been hit before but when i moved in with him and my mom went out like today i could here him come up the stairs being all like saying my name and im not stupid enough to answer so i closed my door and started pilin everything infront of it and he started swinging at the door with a baseball bat only once before did he slap me and whip me with a belt for "bad judgment" on braking the micowave and i call it a beating because what else is that suppose to be it sure as hell wasnt talking about the problem or fixing the ******* micowave i mean my mom really loves this asshole i dont want to be a ***** and brake them up and i dont want to end up being a trouble kid ethier anyone have any ideas?
2006-08-31 19:00:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get psychological help
and quickly
2006-08-31 19:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does ur mum know this?
You sound like a caring son that u dont want to make ur mum unhappy but if she knows he does this and she's still happy with him then ur mum has a problem.. On the other hand if she doesnt know is better to tell her because maybe she thought the guy was different and if she finds out what he really is from now then things will be better.. Try talking to him about this calmly.. If he's still the same then call someone older that u trust.. an uncle or family friend and tell him/her , they will know what to do.. If u dont have anyone then call the police .. they will take u seriously and they will help u ..
Stay away from this man and tell ur mother asap!
2006-08-31 19:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg
Get some help. Take pictures of any of your injuries. And saying you don't want to hurt your mom.....question......do you want her to be beaten too. If a man does this on your first day there imagne what he will do a month from now etc.
YOu need to save yourself. Have you told your mom what happepned? She initially might believe him, but once she gets beat , well lets hope that hasn't happened yet/
do some research on the internet. BAttered woman stuff like that.
Find out if there is a safe house in your area where you can get to to be protected.
Ya, you don't want to be a troubled teenager thats for sure. you deserve a good life. And it sounds like you are smart enough to know that being in your mom's house isn't a good place to be.
Seek help asap. If you fear being in the house with him, the cops will help. Maybe you have your dad or your cousin or grandparents that can help you.
Be strong
2006-08-31 19:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if he has been hitting your mom, you should find out, because many women stay with their abusers, many think that they can change his behavior, and if he is smacking you around, my guess is that he has hit your mom as well. It sounds like your a thoughtful and caring young woman, what with wanting your mom to be happy, but, if he is beating on you, and possibly your mom, happiness loses out to safety, and getting the hell out of that situation. If he continues to smack you, you will eventually have no choice but to tell your mom, and once she knows about it, she will have to make a choice between you or him, and i`m sorry to say that in many instances, the husband/boyfriend is chosen over the child. Whichever way this goes, you are soon going to be faced with making a decision about your own future, whether to stay with them, you and your mom split, or you find someone else to live with, and the high possibility of reporting him to the police. You are in a bad situation, the only solid piece of advice that I can give you is, think carefully about whatever choices you make, and think of the long run as well, not just the short term, although, short term, can also include getting out ot there if the violence increases, so consider before acting. I wish you good luck and a happy outcome. Be careful, be safe, be happy.
2006-08-31 19:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by dukefritz79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there! You do NOT deserve to be treated that way. Loving him or not, your mom's first priority MUST be to take care of you and your best interests. Hard, I know, but that's the way it is...tell an adult you trust who will help you report what's going on. Take the time to write down every abusive thing he's done to you - mental, emotional, physical, and sexual if that's the case. You NEED to take care of yourself...and you're NOT a trouble kid for doing so - you're a responsible young adult.
Please, don't take the abuse - you're worth far too much to put up with this junk.
If you are too scared to tell anyone else, at least report it to your school - they're bound by law to report even suspected child abuse.
Take care of you.
Good luck.
2006-08-31 19:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by tydlywnks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds abusive. If this is the case, and only you really know what's happening over there, then you should inform your mother. If your mother ignores the issue, you may want to consider the possibility that she has poor judgment and discuss the situation with a school counselor. They'll have more than enough advice and information for you. If he attempts to hit you again, I would suggest that you go to a neighbor's house and call the police immediately and if he leaves any marks, make sure that they know about them.
Hope this helps,
Nicholas
www.iConfessional.com
2006-08-31 19:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....your mother loves you to and she should love you more than what she loves this loser. Talk to her about it. No woman deserves to be hit, EVER! The people that hit women deserveto be killed. Your mother will hopefully love you enough to get you out of the relatioship before someone truely gets hurt. Also if your mother wont do anything I would suggest calling your other parent and seeing if you could stay with them if they are still in the picture. If all else fails you could get out of there by getting removed from the home or going to independant living.
2006-08-31 19:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by JR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone. No one deserves to live in fear. Talk to your Mom. If she doesnt listen- dont be in the house alone with him. Talk to someone in your school or other family members. The more people who know - the less likley he will try to do it.
If you dont feel safe- you need to move in with other family members- then your Mom will know your seriuos.
Just know - this is NOT "ok". This isnt deserved. This isnt something that should happen. Tell anyone who will listen- and get out.
2006-08-31 19:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and get out of there NOW. Don't wait for him to do it again.
I hope your mother is smart enough to get rid of the guy and take care of you, but I have to warn you... there are a sad number of women out there who will sacrifice their kids to keep a bad man. If she does that, it's not because you're a problem, it's because she is weak and selfish.
Can you live with your dad, your grandma, an aunt, anyone?
2006-08-31 19:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this doesnt sound like a good situation! But have you talked to your mom at all about this guy? If i had a stepdad like that...it would probably scare the crap out of me...but of cource, im a girl so its different. Just talk to your mom about this first and tell her how you feel about this guy or at least about how he's treating you.
2006-08-31 19:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart your a child with a adult mind but men like this will kill you are your mom one day on accident you need to tell some one immiditly i know that because i did not and i was beat a lot as a kid and now i say to my self i schould of told maybe it would have made a diffrece so call the police tell a teacher tell your mom if she does not know a mom needs to protect her baby and you are her baby
2006-08-31 19:05:35 · answer #11 · answered by sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋