2006-08-31 18:48:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I mean the family is unsophisticated
2006-08-31 18:51:15 · update #1
I mean my parents often diminish me in front of other people. They make me look stupid and bad. When I drive with my mom in the car, even though I've been driving for 10 years, she is a backseat driver and constantly acts like I'm going to get into an accident at any time. It does much harm to my self-confidence. When one of my male friends was in the car with us once, he kept imitating and talking about what my mother was doing to me when I was driving. (ie. "stop! stop!") My father talks to me in a very rude and condescending manner even in front of other people. They basically treat me like I'm a big ball of nothing in life, and I'm completely powerless when I'm in their presence.
2006-08-31 23:52:27 · update #2
if I like the girl enough I wouldn't care what my family thought. Oh, you're saying that you fam. is backwater. Well, even still, if you have plans for/with her, you should swallow your pride and take her to see the animals in the zoo.
2006-08-31 18:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by David A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a situation like this in HS and when I was with friends, I actually had them leave me at the corner or somewhere else where I'd walk.
It didn't work out very well for me (for other reasons), but I know exactly where you are coming from...
Unfortunately, it's something you either need to face or grow out of where you eventually head out on your own.
Bottom line though, family is family and you should never turn your back on them, but it's a very difficult situation similar to those leaving a small town for the big city to get the small-town chip off their shoulder.
The problem is, what do you do if it's your family?
2006-08-31 18:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by barddzen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the question that haunts all of us. In the end though... your relationship w/ your girlfriend should not be based on how unsophisticated, backwoods, uneducated, or trailer park the family is.
2006-09-08 12:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by unsophisticated?
uneducated?
bad table manners? What?
You should never be embarrassed by your parents, they are who you are and where you come from.
They raised you and have loved you all these years.
To let them think you are worried about what they may do to embarrass you would hurt them.
Girlfriends come and go,
but families are forever.
2006-08-31 19:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Moma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why would you be embarrassed by your own family? So what if they don't cut the mustard with what you would call upper class, they are your family and if your girl friend wants to be a part of your life, and you a part of hers you have to know the backgrounds, that is part of learning to love and trust one another.
If my son never wanted us to meet his girl friends I would be devestated. We are a fun loving family who works hard for everything we own and have what we need to survive. Are your parents even close to this? If you answer yes to anything, they are worthy of meeting your girlfriend.
You have a bit of a preconcieved notion that your girlfriend is untrustworthy - you don't trust her enough or yourself enough to let her make her own decisions.
You need to trust her and your family as well as yourself..you will be pleasantly surprised...I bet they love each other immediately.
2006-08-31 18:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your family are people who will always be there for you no matter what and they love you no matter what you do--so if she can't except them then your better off with out her-----you should never look down your nose at your family you may need them some day
2006-09-06 16:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by gj_peters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never ashamed or embarassed of my family because thats where I came from. I know sometimes they are crazy, but I just laugh it off. If your girlfriend wants to be with YOU she won't care what your family are like. And if she does, prehaps she's not the right one.
2006-08-31 18:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mel ~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you know that your girl is unsophisticated, then that probably means you are on two separate levels and she might not be right for you in the first place
2006-08-31 18:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Unsophisticated" meaning "trash", "ghetto", "poor"??? If that's the case, why did she choose you to date?
Personally speaking, I wouldn't be too interested in meeting "parents" or family...that s h i t is boring...
2006-09-08 04:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a girlfriend, and would not bring her home to meet my family if I had one because my wife would more than likely object rather strongly.
2006-08-31 18:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋