how many hours should I talk to my wife everyday?

Question

She always complained that im not spending much time communicating.
And Im simply just tired

Answer 1

Sometimes listening is more important that speaking.

Answer 2

It may be "what" you are communicating not how long. Maybe if you call in the morning while at work for a minute then in the afternoon- by evening she will feel she has talked to you all day. Try filling her in on YOUR day- how work was etc. She may feel out of the loop on your life. We sometimes forget the people we see everyday and what we share with them. She is telling you she needs something ( which is a good sign- better than not telling you and finding someone who will talk) so give her more of your time. Shes your wife remember that.

Answer 3

There's such a thing as talking without really communicating and hearing without really listening. When she sits down and talks to you, the best thing you can do is simply listen to what she's really saying. I don't mean just hearing her...I mean, really listening to the point of understanding where she's coming from. In my opinion it's not about the quantity but the QUALITY of time you spend communicating that matters. We just want to be understood.

Answer 4

Concentrate on making more eye contact when you do communicate with her. It will make the quality of time spent far more meaningful and trust me, she will require less if the quality is there.

Also, try repeating (Affirming) what she has shared from time to time. I know it may sound silly, but a woman really wants to know she is being understood. EX: "So, what you are saying is, ..." or you can try this, "Oh, I understand, what you mean is, ..." How about this, "Yeah! I like that idea. It would be great if we ..."

Believe me when I say that it is most likely about quality of time spent vs. quantity.

Answer 5

There should not be no particular time limit. You should talk and also listen as well. If you are not in the mood for talking because maybe your reading a good book or watching some program you enjoy ask her if she can wait until you unwind before she starts talking.

Answer 6

Define "communication".

Remember, most communication is done without speaking a word. it is done by facial expressions, body language, and so many other ways.

Make sure that she feels loved. tell her so often, either by saying it, or writing notes for her to find. Tell her how your life is going, what concerns and problems you are facing. Communication is everything, and without it, the relationship is worthless.

But if she feels unhappy about this, you need to ask her what she expects of you. Ask her why she feels ignored.

You'll have to ask her, not some insomniac weirdos out in cyberspace. =)

Answer 7

Even though you try it just seem like you are trying and really don't care. You listen but you do not have anything to say as if you were conserned your heart isn't in it like her's. We like it when you care just as much as I would care.

I know it is hard because I go thru it all the time even though I know it's not what I want I deal with it. Then I get fed up and I drift off. That's were the sex gets weak Because we not feeling loved.

WOMEN............... HAHA

Answer 8

You should talk to her more than anyone else. If your so tired now, wait till she goes to find someone else that will talk to her. Then see how tired ya get, not being able to sleep,eat,or relax and watch tv or listen to music. Because she will be gone, and u will be so hurt you won't want to do anything. Next you will be in here asking for answers, what should ya do, my wife left me because I didnt have time to talk to her.

Answer 9

Maybe you just don't talk much! Tell her you are tired and you need quality time alone to recoup from work or whatever. I have the same problem with my boyfriend. I need quality time alone by myself all the time. I don't like to sit and listen to his chatter. Set an appointment with her for 30 minutes each evening and that should be enough.

Answer 10

I think that u should talk to her as many times as u can dont matter how TRIED u r,just say thing.Samtimes thats all she want to hear,(she KNOWS u r tried).But at the same time....Dont talk to much,unless its sumthing that she love to talk about.Woman really do love it wen their man listen and respond in a manner they can understand (plus feedback is a great thing).

Answer 11

you sound like it's a chore. i've started running.and staying busy,exercising to get my blood flowing. i think better when i liven myself up.. it's all a mindset .try it!if you do care about her. you'll think of something. you know what to do. communicating can be done in many ways . spark up man!girls really get all hot when you send flowers. i know one thing... wen women say you are not paying much attention. that means they will get attention somewhere else. this is fair warning and the begining of the end.the ball is in your court.