weve been togther for almost 4 years. he has grown children and grandchildren. he would loose alot $ but after 2 failed marriages im comfortable the way things are. He says they are not romantically involved for a long time. 6 years he said she says it hurts and that her libido has gone. Is she also having a affair? Is she gay or does she just not love him?
2006-08-31 18:30:36 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you both feel strongly for one another, be with him....tell him to get a divorce! The BEST and most deeply connected relationships exist between people who get together in ''weird'' or ''wrong'' situations! Trust me :) But do remember, you might lose him the way you got him...would you trust him if the two of you were to marry?
good luck :)
2006-08-31 18:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Probably nothing wrong with his wife. I don't know that I would believe this guy. If he really loves you. losing any amount of money wouldn't matter to either of you. I bet money that he is having his cake and eating it to. Find a single guy that can give all of himself to you, don't settle for second best. He won't ever leave her. And I'm sure that in 4 years there has been some kind of intimacy between them, even if it's only once a month. They are together, don't let him fool you. Tell him that if he really loves you, he will get a divorce. Bet he's not willing to do that, so therefore he can't care too much about you. Don't mean to be harsh, I have just seen this happen too many times to not know how it almost always turns out bad. I think that if he was really in love with you, he would have already left his wife. I hope you don't just sit around at home while he spends time with his family. I think if you get out there and have some fun, you might see things alot differently. Do you ever think about the pain that this would cause his family if they found out? Go out there and find you a good full time guy and be happy. Good luck to you
2006-08-31 18:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is WRONG,WRONG.There is NO earthly reason he couldn't leave his wife if he truly loved you! Money shouldn't matter. I'm sure at one time in his life he didn't money, like when he first married his wife and they were raising their children together,He probably is one happy man. He has a wonderful woman that helped him become the man he is,stood behind him, did without while he had his struggles,has a history with him and a loving family together. I can assure you that you aren't the first and you probably won't be the last. Just what are you to him? His sideline jollies provider? Have more respect for yourself and save some dignity and END IT. After 4 years, you are kidding yourself. You will never win. Please seek some counseling and get out of this mess,
2006-08-31 19:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pat C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about ten years from now if the situation hasn't changed how will you feel? After awhile the ____ gets old! In a few years you will catch him lying to you also about little things. Sure he loves you I don't doubt it. Problem is he loves her too. It's always the money. The only thing you can do is wait and watch your friends get married and live happy lives. You only get to see him on week days now, sometimes late on saturday or sunday evening. Holidays you are always alone. By now you are probably tired of sleeping by yourself. It really is a horrible way to live. I know exactly how you feel. It is a trap and you will end up feeling like you are in prison if you don't already. If you possibly can the best thing to do is leave town and don't let him know where to find you.
2006-08-31 19:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons why her libido is gone (who knows) but consider the question: if it is as bad as he makes it out to be, why is he still with her? My guess is it's not only about the $$ he's worried about. He could stand to lose a lot more than that. Afterall, the time invested in his marriage and the life he built with his wife all those yrs is not something a man is willing to just throw away that easily. It is infact, the wives who leave when they find out their husbands are having an affair. I know you're just curious but her issues are really none of your business. It is between her and her husband. I wouldn't hold out hope of him ever leaving her if I were you.
2006-08-31 18:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this guy cheats on his wife with you. If he ever decided to leave his wife, what makes you think he won't cheat on you? Marriage is a sacred covenant between two people and involves vows that are made before God. You will be responsible one day for coming between a man and wife. If he did not love his wife he would leave her. If they have been together all those years, why would you want to come between them? Why don't you find a man who you will not have to share with another woman? Hey girls, leave married men alone...unless you want some other woman trying to break your marriage up one day! What comes around goes around! You reap what you sow! If you were doing the same thing during your two marriages, I can see why they failed. Men, you need to honor your marriage vows!
2006-08-31 19:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not understand. What i understand is that this is an excellent waste of time. extra situations as not those men are seeking for for some unusual to sense extra alive or to sense as even with the undeniable fact that they "nevertheless were given it". they're neither attracted to nor are they planning to leave their better halves. no remember what they have advised you or how honest they sounded even as the stated it, its now unlikely to ensue. Conversely, some women relish the noncommitted nature of seeing a married guy. They get the some times weekly booty call to satisfy their desires and they are frequently who they're with out the intrusion of a guy telling them what they could and may not do. very last be conscious: maximum folk can not deal with casual sex. One will continuously get extra connected than the different and, finally, thoughts receives damage and damage undesirable. extra situations as not, its the kinfolk of the dishonest guy who receives stuck contained in the crossfire.
2016-12-06 02:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by sallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be second best. If he loves you as much as he says he does then he would leave his wife and sort out the money issue. He is lying to his wife what makes you think he is not lying to you about thier sex life. I would be very upset if a man told me about his wifes libido I would think he was just wanting me for his sexual gratification.
2006-08-31 18:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or is he not telling you the truth. My hubby had an affair with someone for 6 yrs before I found out. He had told her that he didn't love me, was unhappy, loved her, that I no longer enjoyed sex, and as soon as our son graduated from high school he was going to leave me. Then when I found out he told her right in front of me that he didn't love her, he loved me and wanted to try to make his marriage work. That was 10 years ago and we are still together. So please beware they will tell you anything.
2006-08-31 18:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe before you came along he had a different booty call, and when you came along he might have only had you as a booty call, perhaps it is not that she has something wrong with her, its him, he is the one cheating on her, he is the one with a whore on the side, no offense, he is the one that has to prove something, maybe he is the gay one, i think that if you stepped out side the box and looked in and read this as if you didn't just make a fool out of your self, you will see how selfish and foolish this is, please re-read it, cause you are not a good person, especially for blaming your wickedness on some poor wife who is stuck at home while her cheating husband is out screwing with some two bit thing, no offense, but think about it, what if she were you, how would you feel??
2006-08-31 18:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fall in love with a married man and he loves you too. What do you think God will think when you are standing face to face. That it is okay because he isnt getting any and you love eachother? You've already have had two failed marraiges, Sorry to say this would be strike three. HES NOT YOURS!!!!!!!! MOVE ON!!!
Oh and why would she want to be intimate with a man who is cheating on her???????????? He obviously isnt giving her the attention.
2006-08-31 18:51:29 · answer #11 · answered by galbee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋