Help im pregnant by a sex offender and need some advice?

Question

I have a daughter from a previous marriage and I got involved with a sex offender. I have never left him alone with her and never will. We are no longer dating but my x inlaws are trying to take her from me sayin that we live in the same house (not true) and that i leave her alone with the sex offender (also not true). I knew the risks of being with him so i have protected her in every way possible. I'm currently 9 months pregnant with his child and he will be apart of his sons life. Do you think im a bad person for forgiving someone of there past, and do you think my x inlaws should be allowed to take my daughter from me? I have done nothing wrong i dont think. He was convicted of molesting 2 young girls, but after getting to know him i dont think he would ever do anything like that. Please help me. I want to kill myself because of all this ****.

I do have a lawyer and after this baby is born im going to be moving out of state about 4 hours away. I have met the mother of the 2 girls (sisters)(one offense) and the sex offender was with me and she acted like nothing ever happened. The girls had been molested before by one of there relatives and they eventually needed someone to blame. There father was in plain sight of the girls and seen nothing happen and said nothing and blamed no one until several weeks later so you tell me if it really happened or not. And yes he went to prision and he has been to therapy (and finished) and taken polygraph that have proven nothing even happened. And the girls dad still talks to my exboyfriend like they are still friends. So things just don't add up. I dont think i deserve to lose my daughter over nothing.

Answer 1

This is toooo much risk for your kids. You've made some pretty selfish choices. He could get your daughter, show up at her school and pick her up. Does she know what he is, and how of earth could you explain that to her.
People like that would do anything to fulfil their perversions, what if he traded you son to another paedophile. People like that are consummate actors, that's how they get their victims. Can you really trust him doesn't sound like you do.
Take yourself and your kids as far away from him as you can. Your children are counting on you to protect them.

Answer 2

People are usually pretty predictable-if you do it once you'll do it twice, then just one more time, and now it's a habit. I'm sorry that you made what a lot of people would consider a bad choice. You are not a bad person for not being judgemental of someone, but that probably wasn't a good choice to not question things until it's too late.I do understand why your ex in laws want to make sure their beloved innocent little girl isn't put in harms way. If you kill yourself, than your daughter is going to be left alone with a convicted child molester until someone comes to pick her up. Not a wise decision. You need to sit down and do some serious thinking. I'm not going to tell you how to live your life because different people have different agendas and want different things out of life, and you are not going to be happy trying to live your life making everyone else happy instead of yourself, but I will tell you that if a lot of different people coming from different walks of life, having nothing in common, except the fact that they all use the computer, all have the same advice about something, I'd say that is probably the advice you should go with. You're going to have a rough time of it but that's what happens when we don't think ahead. And I'm not trying to be judgemental because I've got some hard issues to think about in my life too, but I do know that above all else I would protect my baby girl. Good luck with the hard choices you are going to have to make. And if you let time go by without making those choices, it's very possible your in laws will have made them for you. (And moving away won't stop him from being a convicted child molester.) And who will watch your daughter while you are in the hosp. with the new baby?

Answer 3

Killing yourself is not the answer. You are in a mess though. No his parents cannot take away your child unless you were a very bad parent. You need to think ,he was convicted of this crime so it could be true that his did molest those children. It actually is a good thing you are no longer dating this man because he could be a child molester whether you believe it or not. You might want to find a good lawyer or go to the district attorneys office so when he does get to see your child he is supervised. Please protect your unborn child because when they are really little they cannot talk and if you leave him alone with this child he could harm them.

Answer 4

I am so glad I found you and I will answer your question as much as I know. I hear your story and I feel your pain.Do not kill yourself for any reason yet.1. the two children need your help and support.
2. You are preagnant and want to leave this so call child Moleste and how can you get a child support from him and make sure you have a lawyer.
3. You need to fight for your daughter and you need to make sure this child molester is not in your life.
4. You can fight and you will win if you prove to the court that this child molester did not harm your child yet.
5.Try to contact the police and run a police record about the child molester who you are involved and see what the truth is before you ask around or listen to him.
In my opinion,CHILD MOLESTER always be child molester because,he is very evey very sick and you need to make sure that he is not if you want to have life with him otherwise your in Laws will not want a custody of your daughter at all. Trust me. Do not afraid to admit that you make a mistake. Try to find out the deep truth about him and stand tall to fight for your daughter and try to raise your future child, a handsome boy.
You are in a bad situation and you need love and support and he ( ugly ) came along then you felt for and it is natural and you can not get any help from your inlaws who wants your child custody. Well you know what to do and there are many ProBo-no Lawyers who can advice you from legal Aid in your town or go to Rape crisis center and you will get the best lawyer without money. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to be so blunt but this is a crazy question!

Maybe you should let your family take her! they seem to care more about her well being then you are!
Being in a relationship with a child molester who humps little girls is just asking for your daughter to be molested!
You are crazy! To think that this perverted man can ever change! Further more guys like this are good at pulling the wool over peoples eyes how do you think you got those little girls to get in bed with him by pretending to be a nice guy!
You are a selfish person! Once you have kids you don't live for you anymore you live for them!
Until you understand what it means to be a mom you don't deserve your child!

Answer 6

Keep him away from your daughter. Think about how bad you will feel in a couple of years after he has molested her ("After getting to know him I [didn't] think he would ever do anything like that"). Ask yourself, what kind of rehab has he had? Sitting in a jail cell is not rehab. Wake up.
I do not think you are a bad person-you just lack proper judgement and insight. If you choose to stay with this molester, then I APPLAUD you ex-inlaws for taking your daughter. Perhaps they can keep her safe and give her a good upbringing, rather than into the arms of a convicted molester.

Answer 7

You must have a twin....cause there's no way one person could be that stupid! Wow....you sure can pick them!!

I don't think your a bad person for forgiving someone for their past....but I do think you're an idiot for letting him into your life when you have a child.

Sorry but if that was my daughter Id want her away from a sex offender as well. If you want to continue your relationship with a sex offender you should consider letting your daughter go....for her protection.

Sorry that is answer isn't what you want to hear but it's in the best interest of your daughter. It's one thing for you to have sex with him....not cool if your daughter does too.

Answer 8

I never understand why ppl would want to kill themselves because of other ppl..... why let someone else write your story..... why should others say how the story ends ?? ok, you need to calm down and really think about what is going on here...... you are involved with a man that has a questionable past, a very BAD past at that...... if you trust him soooooo much, and do not beleive he could have done what he is accused of, why do you NOT trust him with your daughter ?? better think real hard about that...... and here you are with another child on the way, and it is his ? ok, that is fine, love it is love and all that..... but, what about this childs safety ?? what about later, when he finds out about dad and what about what others will tell or say to this child ? you have lots, and I mean lots to think about.... you and this man need to sit and have a real heart to heart talk about what is good and right for these 2 kids..... if this man is man enough to love and care about your child and his, then he will know what the right thing to is..... do NOT carry this burden alone........ this is his problem too...... and you might want to look into the legal side of this too, such as getting statements from those ppl you talk about in the 2nd half of you post... ....... good luck and God bless

Answer 9

It was your choice to get involved with a child molester. Now you are having his child and going to be a mother of two. Honestly, you should have thought about this before you got involved with this man, because you have a little girl. History repeats itself, but hopefully not for you. You need to protect both of your children, that's your priority. He is attracted to little girls and eventually do it again. Get an in house nanny that stays and sleeps and protect your kids. Maybe that will calm you in laws down. I doubt it.

Answer 10

Sex offenders can never change with programs unlike other types of criminals.You've made a huge mistake to involve yourself with a person of this nature if you did knowing from the start who and what he is.
Use the lawyer and hope a judge helps you when the time comes.His previous record wont help him.