Well, first of all, I don't know exactly how to say it, but I know there is no chance I am ever going to be together with the person I love. I know I love them because I want to be with them, not just for sex or because of lust. I usually have fantasies of being with them, then I am crushed because I realize I will never be with them. :(
I don't want a pity party, but my family doesn't really care about me. I'm not going to overexaggerate and say they hate me (which isn't true) but they don't ever seem to worry or care about what I am going through.
I have barely any friends since I am shy, my only friends told others they only were my friends because they felt sorry for me.
So I really have nobody to talk to about this, I'm always up all night crying or just being grumpy and I know it will affect school soon.
I know people will tell me to "get over it", the thing is I don't WANT to get over them, I love them too much. I know I should, but I just can't. Advice?
2006-08-31 18:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am no counseler. i beat people. c a counseler
2006-08-31 18:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the biggest issue lies within your family. Sounds like you are reaching out for some help. Try talking to your family about how you feel. Not about this girl, but how you feel distant from them and that you feel they dont care and you cant talk to them.
Once your family understand how you feel, im sure they will make more of an effort to communicate better with you. This should boost your confidence, and make you happier in yourself.
You should focus on fixing the problems at hand before creating more (girls can be problems!! and if you have issues in yourself then starting a relationship really isnt a very good idea!)
2006-09-01 01:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone older you can confide in. I'm sure your family loves you and cares about you very much. Maybe they are tired of seeing you hurt, wanting someone you can't have. Maybe they just want you to forget about that person so that you can be happy. You need to try a little harder to make some good friends. Those girls that told those other girls that aren't your friends. If they were they wouldn't be running around talking about you. You know how many others are feeling just like you do now. Keep your eyes open and I'm sure you will find others that need friends too. You could reach out to one of them and maybe really help them. That will make you feel better about yourself and give you more confidence. You don't say why you can't be with this person, but if you are this miserable, I"m sure it's not even worth it. You need to reach out to your family too, they might just be thinking that you don't want them bothering you. Good luck.
2006-09-01 01:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advive isnt going to do any good if you dont want to do something you know you should. I know you dont want to feel this way forever do you? I bet you was doing fine before Joe Wonderful came along!! There is no reason you cant go back to be doing fine again. In time the right man for you will come along. Then one day you will look back on this and laugh. Your not the first to ever have to face heartbreak and you wont be the last. But most do get over it and move on to better things and you can to.
2006-09-01 01:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BTW how old r u? I guess u r still in school....sound like a teenage to me....
Let me tell u is:-
I do not understand wat u mean u can b with yr love 1? But there must b a reason y....which u didnt "said" out clearly....so i cant advise u. As the saying go :- if is your, it will b your, if it nt yr no point crying over it. Only can said relationship come n go by themslf...as day passes we got to b more "mature" in let go thing.
All family care abt their members but there r 2 type of family (which i figure out)
1) some even "care" to much tat they cant let us go...even wen we r married...we just cant hv our own "life style".... n tat suck!
2) Some family choose nt to "care" or rather nt to bother u too much, they let u hv yr own time n freedom to do wat u want...but once ANTHING happened to u, they will always b there for u...i guess yr family is the 2nd type.
As for friend - I find if u can find "truth" friend, u dun need many of them, just a couple will do.... u can hv many many friend but they r only there for u wen it "party" time but will never b here for u wen u needed them with lots of excuse so wat for? Truth friends r these that r u with whether u r "up" or "down", they stay by yr side oni when u needed them.
If u need to talk to ppl abt wat is bothering u....u can always come online here...n speak out no 1 noe who u r therefore u can tell "us" everything without hiding yrslf.... no point crying all night, cheer up n think on a better side...yr suitation will only "shape" to b a better person, some1 tat is indenpdant....
Stay cheerful....as u smile to the world the world will smile back to u......n remember tomorrow will b a better day for us!
2006-09-01 01:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear, I can understand the situation which u r going through right now,
I have experienced what u have written.It really is so hard to go through it I mean u know that u'r parents love you but you can't feel it within u'r self,right?
You feel lik u'r all alone,& At night u cry
My friends r the same dear,they just hang on with me just to feel me better & I know that.In the beginin it hurt me so much, I too cried at night.Bt now I believe my self and I do what I wanna do
The only solution is trust u'r self & b strong within,
I hope that'll work out for you.
goodluck....
2006-09-01 01:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just a part of life we all have to live. You sound young and there is plenty of life and plenty of people to meet. Boys and men are going to come and go. Some you want to have as a boyfriend others you just can't seem to get rid of. There is no reason to be up in the middle of the night crying over a boy. Your most concern should be your school work and how you are going to be independant in life.
2006-09-01 01:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sund like any normal person with depression. there are so many people on anti depressants including myself they really do help just make sure you find the right one if you still feel depressed then its not working. Remember it takes time you need to give each different one at least 2 months to know trust me I have been through this myself. Now I am happy and am friends with everone. but close friends are hard to find and if you tell people depressing this they will shun you away you just need to find posative things to talk about.
2006-09-01 01:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this person you love - is it a him or a her or a them?
Have you spoken to your object of love about your feelings?
As to your family, you should absolutely talk with your family about what's up in your life. How will anyone ever know unless you say something?
2006-09-01 01:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i wish i could say something to help you are help make things all better for you but i cant.i do know one thing that is if your ever going to be happy again then you r going to half to get over this guy like it r not.good luck.
2006-09-01 02:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean u can talk to me about if u like email me but i mean tell that person how u really feel cause i dont have too much info in detail to go on
2006-09-01 01:21:42 · answer #11 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋