can someone help me please??!!!?

Question

I am 11 years old. I have a sister that is 14 years old. I dont have any friends and I dont have anyone to talk to. My sister is the princess. I am thrown around, litterally! my dad is violent and he is in jail for abuse. I met my mom for the first time in 10 years! I met her half brother who lives in montana and he is 12. I get along with him really good. I can talk to him, he understands me and he thinks the same exact way I do. And finally out of my whole life I meet someone who cares. he feels like my best friend and he is the ONLY one. I may never talk to someone like this again, even though he is my uncle. my sister tells me to stay away from him and she makes bad choices. she smokes shes preganet and she has been in jail 3 times and shes 14. if i let my uncle go I will be alone forever and I will be pushed asidew ith no dreams and nothing to look forward to. what should I do? stay in contact or forget my dumb sister?

Answer 1

makayla;
It may seem like your sister is just being mean or that she is selfish, but it sounds to me like she has reason to think your uncle does bad things.

I know things seem really lonely right now, but you will be in school very soon, and can make new friends there. When you're young everything seems so important, like it has to be fixed right now, but life has ups and downs all the way through. You will find that sometimes friends are good and sometimes friends are bad. But if you give it a little time, like a month in school, if you treat others like they were already your friends, some of them will respond like real friends.

When they do, you will need to decide which ones are real, and which ones fake being your friend just to get you to trust them for something. Take your time, look things over, then commit yourself to be the friend you want others to be, and be that person every chance you get. Trust me, if you follow this advice, you just might become the most popular person in school.

about your family. Drinking and smoking are bad for you. People who do this are hurting themselves. People who hurt themselves are angry at themselves for something they do or something that happened to them when they didn't know how to deal with it.

These are very grown up issues and you shouldn't have to think about these things all on your own until you are much older, but it sounds like your family isn't there for you to learn these things from. So I think you should find a local church and go to Sunday school where there may be some people who teach these things even to adults. This will give you some friends too, that usually act better than in ordinary school. They are still people and mess up like everybody else, but they are trying to act right.

I'm sorry you are having such a bad time right now, but I will pray for you and hope you find some really good friends. Okay? Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 2

As you are both close in age you are going to have somethings in common, don't see there is any problem in you being friends. Your sister obviously has concerns, she may not want to be pregnant and sound like she has made mistakes and is just trying to stop you doing the same, as the older sister she may feel she has some responsibility for you as your Mom has not been around. Keep your friendship with both your sister and Uncle, and just remember, that he is your uncle and that it could never be a boyfriend. Try making friends with a girl your own age too, I am sure there must be another girl at school that's not got a best friend. Becareful of the replies you get, unfortunately putting you age on the internet can be dangerous, If you get any abusive messages, make sure yahoo knows about them. early teens is a tough time, and you have a lot of other added problems, are there any youth councillors or a good teacher you could maybe discuss your family problems with? take care.

Answer 3

You are very young and alone. Please be careful of your uncle. He may or may not be a good person. If he is not a good person, he might try to take advantage of your feelings for him and try to get you do do things that you will regret later. Please listen to me, the main thing you need to do in your life right now is to concentrate on your education, nothing else. Even if you don't have friends, that doesn't matter. YOU matter, and if you get a good education you can get yourself away from your horrible family and get a good job and feel good about yourself. Please don't end up like your sister.

Answer 4

Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry!!!! So young...sorry to hear about your dad, your mom, and your sister. She's 14 and pregnant?? I'm 14!!! Well, I really hope I can help. You can still tallk to your uncle, don't listen to your sister. But if you still need to talk and your uncles not around or whatever, you can always contact me!

Answer 5

well to tell you the truth, your uncle sounds better to me. Just if you decide to listen to your sister, doesnt mean you are going to turn out like her! Now you know what you want for yourself, work towards it, and dont let peer presure make you do anything that you dont want to! Ok? I hope i have helped, and take care! Dont forget mayb try praying about it! God will answer! :o)

Answer 6

FIRST YOU HAVE TO TRUSTH IN YOU HEART, WHAT DOES HE FEELS, YOU AGE DOSEN'T HELP, YOU ARE VERY YOUNG FOR SOLVE THE PROBLEMS THAT YOU GOT, KEEP IN TOUCH WITH YOUR UNCLE, BUT BE CAREFULL MEAVY YOUR SISTER HAD TAKE BAD DECISIONS BUT GIVE HER AN OPPORTUNITY BECAUSE SHE'S OLDER THAN YOU, IN THE OTHER HAND TRY TO BE MORE POSITIVE, PROBLEMS ALWAYS HAVE AN ANSWER, YOU HAVE TO BE WITH YOUR UNCLE IF YOUR ARE HAPPY WITH HIM.