I DEFINITELY think you should listen to your parents and take their opinion into consideration. They know the difficulty of raising children. You have no idea what you're getting into. I don't think it's fair of you to bring a life into this world (accidentally mind you) when you still rely on your parents.
2006-08-31 17:46:29
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answered by onanist13 3
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Look, I'm 19 years old and I have a 3 month old. Neither my parents nor his wanted this- and to be honest, I was scarred at first too. Do whatever feels right to you. If both you and your girlfriend want this baby, then you can make it happen. It is very hard, but your parents will come around. You should notice their change of heart later on in her pregnancy. Give it time. Also, adoption is another option. My fiance and I found out at 32 weeks pregnant that our daughter had Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome- this requires our baby to have 3 open heart surgeries (she already had one). Our parents became much more supportive after all this. It is a huge responsibility having a baby, but it can DEFINITELY be done. I think you should keep it, but stay true to your girlfriend and stick by her through it all- she needs YOU the most right now. Good luck!!! Congrats!! By the way, the baby is the best thing that ever happened to our entire family!
2006-09-01 01:02:44
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answered by LiSa B 3
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since you are giving so much thought to what your parents think, i'm assuming you are very young? possibly still in high school or college? well, i would recommend that if you and your g/f want to keep the baby, then you should find a way to raise it to the very best of your abililty. please take parenting classes not only to give you guidance on raising a child, but to help prepare you for the way your life is going to drastically change from the time the baby is born until you die. look into social programs that will help you continue your education (and please finish your education no matter what), and take of you baby at the same time. also, in regards to your relationship with your girlfriend: it is nice and all that you love each other, but please do not decide to get married simply because there is a child involved. stay in the relationship you have for a good long while and make sure you know exactly what it is you want, before you commit to marriage. if sometime down the line, you find out the two of you aren't as compatible as you once thought, it is still possible to raise your baby and not be a couple. it's better to raise a baby being apart than to have the child grow up seeing his parents in a dysfunctional relationship.
bottom line, in regards to your baby, if you want to keep it, keep it and do what is best along the line.
2006-09-01 00:56:15
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answered by Peanuts 3
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Well, you need to let your parents cool down a little. If you don't have a part time job after school, you need to get one and start saving every cent you make as in, buy absolutely nothing.
Then, you're going to have to go down to social services and find out what kind of aid is available for young families who are still in school. If that comes up empty, go talk to a priest and find out if there are any church services to help you. At the very least, go to their "young fathers group" to get some decent therapy.
The main thing now, is for you to realise that your life is no longer about you. It's not about what you need, want, desire or wish for. It is now all about your girlfriend and the baby. This is not a case of putting their needs before your own, it's a matter of accepting that now, you cannot have needs. That, is what parenting is about.
2006-09-01 00:51:55
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answered by baggyk 3
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your parents are flipping out because they know how much work it is raising a child is. as long as you and your girlfriend love each other and both want the child even though it will be alot of work you will be fine. just dont let little arguments change anything between you and your girlfriend its important to stick together. Even if something happens and you no longer want to be boyfriend and girlfriend remain friends it will be extremely hard for her to do it alone and you don't want your child to have a bad life right?
2006-09-01 00:59:32
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answered by Anonymous
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If you can't support yourselves (let alone a child), you have no business having one. You have no right to throw the burden onto your respective mothers (where are your FATHERS?).
Screwing is easy. Making offspring is easy. Animals do it every day. Doing the wise and right thing... that's hard. Are you up to the challenge of putting human intelligence above animal urges?
2006-09-01 00:53:27
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answered by Engineer-Poet 7
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How old are you? More teens, right? Why didn't you use protection? Abortion is a good thought or adoption. You have no clue about how this will affect your lives. If you keep the baby, your childhood,young adulthood, and freedom are OVER forever more.
2006-09-01 00:45:10
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answered by Anonymous
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1st of all, how old are you? i'd understand them freaking out, having a baby is a huge responsibility..
2006-09-01 00:47:43
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answered by cadbury FREAK!! 4
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hey look its YOUR baby. your parents are just shocked, they'll get over it. don't do anything for their sake. do what is best for you and at some point your parents will come around. your parents don't have to WANT YOUR baby. it's your baby not theirs. if they don't want one, they shouldn't get pregnant.
2006-09-01 00:42:53
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answered by kateyes 2
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explain to them that u want it
2006-09-01 07:48:04
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answered by Victoria 6
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