People don't seem to enjoy talking to me or ever go out of their way to be around me. It is not that they hate me it is just that they don't care either way? I try to talk to people and be nice and normal but the only way I can get any attention is to be wild and crazy, but then people think I am annoying. Seems like I can't win.
2006-08-31 17:26:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It seems like you're too focused on yourself and your own needs. The truth is that people enjoy people who take an interest in them and their needs. Stop putting on a show and trying to be the center of attention and take time to get to know people. Ask them questions and really listen to their answers. If someone does tell you about something they are interested in, remember the next time you see that person and ask a question related to that interest. The same thing if someone tells you about a problem or a struggle in their life. Don't forget to ask how things are going the next time. Remember people's names, ask them about the things and people that really matter to them, listen closely and take a genuine interest , and you will be very well liked and popular without having to be "wild and crazy."
2006-08-31 17:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. People don't like to be around someone who is annoying.
Don't try so hard to get attention and you will find it easier to make friends. Save the wild and crazy stuff for occasional use only. A little goes a long way
2006-09-01 00:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by nobadkids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this guy I know that sounds like you I think. Don't try to act wild and crazy, try to act like the way you want to, don't immediately show the whole 100% of yourself. Just go step by step, and start being who you want to be, and if they don't want to be friends with the real you they aren't worth the trouble in the first place.
But if you want the easy way out,. act a little less crazier each day for a month and act a little mor elike the way you want to each day till your friends get use to the new you. Than let them know whatever you want them to know about you.
2006-09-01 00:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋