im 16 and im pregnant and i really didnt mean it i just love my boyfriend so much and its been 5 years but now im 2 months pregnant and i shoulda told my mom along time ago but i was scared what do i do??!! what if i can never see him again?!
2006-08-31 17:20:19 · 27 answers · asked by alie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Baby girl, you must must must go tell her. Now. Do not wait. This is much bigger than worrying about seeing your boyfriend. Prenatal care is vitally important and you need to get it NOW. You need to evaluate all of your options and yes, there are options. Don't tell your friends yet either, that will just add to your dilema. Consider where your life is going, are you able to care for a baby, do you want a baby, etc. All of these things need to be discussed by you and your mom. Trust her.
2006-08-31 17:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i had 2 abortions...i was just turned 17 and "loved" my bf but boy, he did not givea fig about me or the baby. I was forced into having an aborton by him AND my mom, because along all this, I was also raped before the pregnancy, walking downtown to my car. When I saw the blood afterwards, i cried so much . They NEVER told me what was going to happen, they just did it very quickly (the doc). I was suicidal after and cared nothing for the bf after. The second time, still too young and trusting, it was w/a married man who insisted on it and so did mother. I was 2 yrs older and it was horrible to do it again. i take full responsibilty, i wish i had had them, i had 2 miscarriages ( in marriage) since and had a lot of trouble having the 2 kids i love more than anything on earth. would i have had those abortions now, even with the rape? NO. NO man is worth the sacrifice. But it is your decision and one you have to live with all your life. You can always get another man, but you cannot replace a child, ever! But you need your Mom's input for sure, and SOON.
2006-09-01 01:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by nowisthetime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an adult friend or relative that you can confide in, that can help you tell your mom? Chances are your mom will be a lot more understanding than you might think. She may be angry or disappointed but you need to tell her, because whatever option you choose, she'll need to be involved. And if you decide to have the baby, then you need to see a doctor ASAP.
Don't worry about your boyfriend right now.. you only have 2 years until you are 18 and can see him if you want to, and if he really loves you he will be understanding about that.
You're not the first 16 year old to be in this situation, and you won't be the last.. it's not the end of the world but you really do need some adult guidance, this is too much to handle alone.
2006-09-01 00:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by AmyAKy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I have been where you are because I had my first baby when I was 17. When I found out I was pregnant I literally fainted. Yeah you should have told your mom,, but **** happens, and you should tell her now before it's too late. As for never seeing him again, I am sure that if you decide to keep the child, that your mother would want a father to be there for the child as well. But do not rush into a marriage this young...well, that's my opinion anyways. Good Luck!!
2006-09-01 00:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by CharM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom right away, and don't worry if she gets mad or not, you just have to do it...
I know you love your boyfriend and it's alright, all you have to do is decide what you want to do with the baby (either keep it, put it up for adoption, or have an abortion) and don't let other people tell you what to do or not to do, and don't let your mom tell you what to do either because it's YOUR body...
and of course you will be able to see him again - in 2 years you will be 18, but before then, if you keep the baby, you're raising a child together. If you don't keep it, you should still find a way to keep in touch with him.
Remember- it's YOUR body and YOUR decision.
Good luck with everything
2006-09-01 00:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a significant leap from being a child to being an adult. Unfortunately, not all of you has made the transition.
Talk with your mom. Sit down. Discuss it.
I think the best course of action for you, the most Christian thing to do, and what will best preserve your growing up would be to have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are hundreds of thousands of childless couples who would love to have your baby.
Now, here's the reality check. Neither you or your boyfriend should be doing this. You aren't ready for the consequences. You don't say his age, but chances are both of you have a lot of time ahead of you and there are many opportunities to experience love and sex--which are not the same thing, by the way.
Do you have a pastor or other clergyman? Are there other adults you love and trust? Get them involved. Most of them will be glad to help a confused 16-year-old girl avoid turning one mistake into a much more serious one.
2006-09-01 00:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
plese tell her now...my sister-in-law got pregnant at 15 and was scare to tell her mother and therefore didn't see the doctor. Well, she fianlly found out around three months when my sister landed herself in the hospital with a kidney infection which, by the way, was no good for the baby and she had to be on antibiotics for the remainder of the pregnancy. Unfortunately the end result was her losing the baby at 5 months and she regrets her desicion and misses her son everyday because this all could have been avoided by speaking up sooner.
Please, please tell your mother...
2006-09-01 00:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by edlauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 and pregnant. My mom found out by noticing that I hadn't had my period, When I came home that day from school she had a pregnancy test in the bathroom waiting for me. You need to tell your mom, cuz sooner or later shes gonna find out. You'll have to see your boyfriend sooner or later won't you? Just explain to your mom that you love your boyfriend and that you want it to be forever. Good Luck. Email me if you wanna know anything else!
2006-09-01 01:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of talking to her try writing her a letter and give it to her when you are leaving for the school in the morning that way she has all day to calm down if she gets upset. In the letter tell her that you made the mistake of having unprotected sex and you are ready to face the consequences. Tell her you understand if shes upset with you but tell her you need her support. Dont mention anything about your boyfriend in the letter you can talk about that at a later time..invite him over so all 3 of you can talk about what your going to do about the baby. Good luck and stay in school even if its hard you will need an education to take care of your baby in the future.
2006-09-01 00:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY IF YOUR PREGNANT YOU WILL HAVE TO SEE HIM SOONER OR LATER IF YOU HAVE THIS BABY. PLEASE TELL YOUR MOM SO SHE CAN GET YOU TO A DOCTOR. SHE MAY BE ANGRY AT FIRST BUT SHE LOVES YOU! IF YOUR AFRAID TO TELL HER FACE TO FACE THEN SEND HER A HEART FELT EMAIL OR LETTER AND LET HER KNOW YOU DIDNT MEAN IT AND YOUR SCARED THAT SHE MAY NOT SPEAK TO YOU AND YOU NEED HER NOW MORE THAN EVER!!!IF YOUR NOT AROUND IT GIVES HER TIME TO THINK BEFORE SHE REACTS AND SO SHE DOESNT BLOW UP AND SAY THINGS OUT OF ANGER. IT GIVES HER TIME TO THINK OF THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH THE SITUATION. THIS ISNT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ANY MORE ITS ABOUT THE WELL BEING OF THAT LITTLE BABY GROWING INSIDE OF YOU. WHEN YOUR A MOM YOU SACRIFICE ANY THING FOR YOUR CHILD SO YOU MAY AS WELL START NOW BY DOING WHATS BEST FOR THE BABY. YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER WHEN ITS OUT IN THE OPEN AND YOUR MOM KNOWS. DONT WAIT TO LONG PRENATAL CARE IS VERY IMPORTANT IF YOU NEED HELP TELLING HER I WILL HELP YOU EMAIL ME @ bigmommanova@yahoo.com AND WE CAN TALK.
2006-09-01 00:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by bigmommanova 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋