My "friend" has always lied to me and other people like forever. I obviously don't want to be her friend, but she invited me to her b-day party. What should I do.. what should I say?!? I know this is pretty sad that I'm asking this here, but I just want to see peoples advice =3
2006-08-31 16:32:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friendship is about trust and if a person always lies to you then you can't trust them. If you know that you dont' want to be her friend then don't go to her party. If you say no enough times to other things she invites you to then maybe she'll get the hitn. Otherwise you'll probably have to tell her straight to her face. There's no point going to her party if you're not going to enjoy being there.
2006-08-31 17:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sindri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I know how you feel. I use to have this friend that me and my other friends hated! We even came up with songs and poems to represent our hate. Also celebrations about the fact she now goes to a different school than us. We hated her because she was such a control-freak, liar, wannaba, and more. But later on I found that I have flaws too, I'm loud, obnoxious, and annoying. Sometimes I can be really bossy.
I think you should just tell her you can't be her friend untill she can learn to be a little more honest. Don't be mean or whiney about it. Just bring it down to her calmly. This way you don't have to go to her party until she can be a better friend. It might not work it may.
What I did was wait for my friend to mature more and change to be a better person, and she did, but it doesn't mean you should secretly hate your friend forever untill she changes.
2006-09-01 00:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liar or not,you've been dealing with this person a long time. I have people I deal with at different levels,but I don't consider them friends....that's a strong word,friend and it holds a lot of meaning for me,not many people I know,meet that criteria.
If you want,go to the party. Deal with people as you feel necessary. Or don't go and find a true friend. Peace,Y.
2006-08-31 23:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go. if you don't want to be her friend then don't even bother with her. i have the same problem and i'll tell you what my dad said (yes i still take advice from my dad) write her off. my friend backstabbed me three times and i know it's compelling to still be friends but don't. if she lied to you once, she'll do it again. and again. and again. not just to you, but to other people. tell her something has come up. and after her party, tell her how you really feel. don't ruin her party by talking to her the day of the the days before, wait a little while after to confront her.
good luck :)
2006-08-31 23:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Frankel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who lied can not be trusted but your friend invited you on her birthday heartedly or not i don't know. But it is on you how you take it and her lies .See how much time her lied to you and make you troubled. And do justification .But don't miss her party she'll feel bad as it is her birthday.Sorry for the things whom you find worse in my answer.
2006-09-01 00:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by kellen_de 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is constantly lying to you and other people, make up a crazy white lie about why you can not go to her b-day party, like you are moving to Brazil to study the Gorillas, or a spiritual retreat to Tibet, whatever, just make it clear that is a lie, to let her know how disappointing it is to be lie to.
2006-08-31 23:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by emogoth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up any excuse like you have to babysit or some relative is commin to town and you gotta stay home. Since she isnt a good friend you should try to make up lots of excuses and try to aviod her. She'll get the hint.
2006-08-31 23:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you six just tell her to her face have you ever heard the expression " a bad friend stabs you in the back but a true friend stabs you in the front" this says if you really want to help her than tell her to her face. she may never forgive you but you may help her more than anything by just telling her
2006-08-31 23:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by pchardbooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to go to the party or be her friend either then tell her you won't be able to attend. If she asks you why tell her you would rather not discuss it. If she insists, then tell her the truth. But, be gentle.
2006-08-31 23:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good is a friend if she always lies to you? Friendship is about trust. Trust is paramount in any type of relationship...even in a weak one!
2006-08-31 23:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by ←Generic Woman→ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋