Does anyone get hurt in a polygamous marriage? Is society worsened? What about in a gay marriage?

Question

Aren't children irreprably harmed when they are born into a polymagous family?

Answer 1

I don't know about polygamy, never tried it. Nor do I think I would. I AM way to selfish for that, I really don't like to share.
I've heard the argument that "if you had a sister and she couldn't find a husband, would you want her to go without or would you willingly share yours with her so she would know what it was to be loved by a man?"
My responce is always, I don't do men and I don't have a sister, so it's irrelavent.

As far as gay marriages, no children are not harmed. Several studies have been done and the conclussions are all positive.
Gender roles don't seem to be problem for children raised in gay/lesbian parented families. Same goes for sexuality.
The percentage of children who happen to be gay/lesbian themselves, raised by same gender parents is no different than in opposite gender parented families.
What is curious is that boys raised by lesbians usually grow up to be MORE COMPASSIONATE than boys raised in "traditional" opposite gender families.

Hmmm...sounds VERY positive in my book.

Answer 2

Polygamous marriage has nothing to do with gay marriage, and gay marriage has nothing to do with polygamy. So, the question is about two entirely different topics.

There have been many short, mid, and long range on gay/lesbian families, and all of the studies have repeatedly shown that children of same sex couples fair as well or better than those of straight couples. This holds for all measures of health and well being across the board. In case you were not aware, the children are no more apt to be gay than the children of straights. There is NO Harm!

Polygamy means different things to different people. The harem type situation that Tammy describes, as described by her, is an extremely unhealthy, abusive situation. Period. A similar polygamous family that does not include sexual abuse or running off the male kids, is almost like an extended family, tribe, or clan, I guess. It's not at it's heart about a nuclear family, but a social arrangement. I can't relate or advocate for it since there seems inherent inequities for the adults, but I'm not necessarily convinced it'd irreparably harm the kids if there's lots of love and nurturance and stability.

I'm not familiar with three people "marriages" but from what I do know of bi people, they are usually in monogamous relationships, or in open marriages. Many straight people have open marriages so I'm not getting your point here.

Answer 3

Marriage is about a choice to commit yourself to living out your life in a family arrangement with someone else other than your blood relatives. It is ultimately up to the people involved in the marriage to choose what is ideal for them. I believe that if the people choose to be there and are in the marriage for the right reasons, have open communication, and above all, love, then many different types of marital situations can work for the parents and the children. Lets remember the majority of dysfunctional households from are heterosexual, monogamous marriages.

I whole heartedly agree that no woman should be forced into a polygamous marriage. That is harmful to the women, and the children involved. However if grown adults choose to live that way, and are commited to making it work, I know from experience that it can work.

Also, homosexuals should not be banned from spending thier lives together. that is cruel. What would it be like if you were in love with someone and someone else told you that your love is not valid because they dont agree with the gender of the person you are in love with?

Is society worsened? Society is worsened by close minded people who try to control other people, for no damn reason! Children are irreprably harmed by assholes in this world. Gay, straight, monogamous, polygamous, it doesnt matter!

Answer 4

I think if I were a child in a polygamous marriage, I would feel strange about it. But, maybe those kids don't realize what the world is like outside their faith, and have no idea that many would feel that way. Personally, I think it's creepy to want to share your husband with other women. I wouldn't stand for it.

Answer 5

Polygamy hasn't occured since it was outlawed in 1898. Though there are some groups that still choose to want it, I don't think that even the Mormon church officially agrees with it either at this point, but I'm not totally sure on that.

Answer 6

The women are brainwashed into this, the boys have to be driven out so they're not competition for their fathers. Girls as young as twelve are used by these so called men. That's polygamy.
Tammi Dee

Answer 7

Uh huh....nothing bigoted about that statement. Polygamy has been practice for thousands of years...It doesn't seemed to have ruined anyone and last time I checked was endorsed by the bible...what then again who cares.

Answer 8

If you're a christian, then you know what is God's rule is. Stay away from it.