2006-08-31 16:16:47 · 18 answers · asked by flignar 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I say...it's easy to get married and hard to get divorced.
2006-08-31 16:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by euphoriarevelation 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hear what you are saying. I dont really know what the origins of marriage are, but I can guess why the idea of marriage is supported by society.
Long, long ago men and women just had sex and children with no commitment beyond a promis. Men worked so they made the money to support the baby and the baby's mother. But then the man wanted a new women and forget about his old girl. This, of course, made life very difficult for the baby and the mother. This made the parents of the abandoned woman feel really bad and they had to support a baby or babies. So in time, men and women were forced to sign a contract (marriage license) to be able to procreate. They were forced by the government (made up of grandparents who were tired of the big problem).
so today marriage is "pushed" on us to avoid all the problems cuased by fatherless children.
Its kind of like speeding tickets. they didnt exist. but when too many people were causing problems (killing, crashing,) becuase they were going too fast the government enacted a law to stop this problem from growing.
Then God was brought into the picture so people would accept marriage as not only a law but also a requirement of a God fearing christian.
I dont know, but this seems like why people are encouraged to get married.
I left out many details though.
2006-09-01 05:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by viajero_intergalactico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen some excellent answers here, and if I could I'd like to add my 2 cents to the pot. Well intentioned words like "commitment", "love" "honor", "cherish" (for richer,or poorer,in sickness and health, etc. in the "vows" are just that. Few people today really understand what these promises truly mean in a marriage. Say two 23 year olds marry. two years later one develops a disease or crippling disability which requires constant care, and will require enormous sacrifice for the healthy spouse for a long time. Say the husband or wife loses employment and cannot find work. Life will challenge us all, and marriage, although a risk, is a way to not only show love and respect to your partner, but to yourself. Listen to those words in the vows, and have the integrity to live up to them. rat
2006-09-01 00:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if 2 people truly, deeply love each other it is the most natural thing to want to do, it's the ultimate promise of your devotion and commitment to each other. However so many women appear to want to get married to have a huge, showy ceremony, engagement ring, dress, presents etc, it's so false.
2006-09-01 01:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a sign of a partnership between 2 individuals that truly LOVE one another. Promising to love each other till death do them part. If you don't plan on loving your significant other for that long of a period of time than there's nothing wrong with not marrying them.
There is no mention of children in the marriage vows or license.
2006-08-31 23:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Q1:
Marriage ain't always about starting a family together, my dear.
For most couples, marriage is the next logical step in starting a lifelong journey together.
To Q2:
Why not?
There're lots of couples out there who choose to stay together minus the legal hassle.
It's really a personal choice.
But it depends strongly on the individuals' beliefs on whether they wish to take the traditional route or to go with their heart.
There is no right or wrong on this matter.
2006-08-31 23:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you if you want to get married. I don't see anything wrong in that. It's between you and the other person.
In fact, I think a lot of people have misconceptions about marriage. Some people do it because they think it's the right thing to do..but never really thought about what goes into a marriage. I know a few people who regret getting married. There's a lot of people out there that think that marriage is the most important thing..but I think those types of people are people who are needy and can't define themselves as their own person.
2006-08-31 23:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sydney 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you can be together and have a good relationship without getting married. This might even be more convenient because later on, you may not want to be with the same person and, if you had married, getting out the relationship would be much more difficult than if you weren't married.
2006-08-31 23:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by jjdanca18 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got married because I love my husband! I wanted to be commited to him and him only. I wanted to do what is right in the eyesight of God. We don't want kids at this point and time in our life, but who knows what will happen in the future. If you don't want to get married, that is your choice. You are responsible for your own actions.
2006-08-31 23:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Apostolic Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. All marriage does is change people. Take two people that have lived together for 5 years and things are great. they decide to get married If it lasts 2 years I'd me shocked
2006-09-01 10:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by robert d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not the marrying type, nor do I want kids, nor do I believe a ring will cement our bond.
But, hey, it will sure save you a lot in taxes as a married couple.
2006-09-01 00:56:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋