I am married and my wife prefers to stay at the house and only eat at the same restaurants. I always want to do things, but she says we have too much to do. I have a friend at work that I have recently became closer with. She is married too. She likes to go to the same restaurants as me and try new places. My friend and I both work in the evenings a lot, so our days are free. My wife is always telling me to do stuff with my friends. I want to tell/ask her that I want to go to lunch with my friend, but I am not sure how she will take it. I know she eats dinner with people from her work, when I am at work, but I know she will say that its different. When I have asked her how in the past she would say "I know what I am going to do..." Also, I don't think I should have to ask her permision. What should I do?
2006-08-31 16:08:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just recently went through this with my husband. They were "just friends" and worked together and let me tell you the problems it caused. If you value your marriage, find a MALE friend. Trust me, my marriage almost ended up in divorce. You tend to get too close and its not appreciated by the wife. The trust dissapears and the fighting and accusations begin! Please, Just don't!!!
2006-08-31 17:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lynne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are guilty of something if you feel you shouldn't have to ask your wife. Why don't all of you as married couples go out to eat. How do you think her husband would feel if you are going out with his wife? Sounds like your not happy in your relationship. When you and this friend get together, you guys will probably talk about marital problems. Then here comes an affair.
2006-08-31 23:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by pinkdiamond_rochee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're wanting someone to justify what you already know you are going to do.
Are there problems at home? If your wife was available would you prefer to spend time with her? If so, you need to sort out the work situation so that you and your wife actuallly get to see each-other so you won't have to be spending time with other people.
2006-09-01 00:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sorry-but I don't think that's a good idea. First you have a couple of lunches together and the next thing you know your having an affair. Why don't you ask your wife how she feels about it?
2006-08-31 23:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO- don't ask for permission- but DON"T do it.
I don't think because your work friend is married has a thing to do with anything. So what? People cheat all the time- and regret it later. Why tempt yourself? I would be highly offended if my husband did that.
2006-08-31 23:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need to ask permission for no other reason except that you must show her the respect that she deserves. If she loves you she probably won't mind you meeting a friend for lunch. Just be sure that you two don't do anything more than just hang out.
2006-08-31 23:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man-UP if your want to go to dinner with a co-worker then that is what you do. Tell you wife that you are doing this. Even have your wife meet her and that will end any mystery about this co-worker. To many double standards dont let this be one.
2006-08-31 23:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Imrickjamesbeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys seem to have communication issues. Instead of involving a third party into your marriage, why don't you talk to your wife and fix what is really wrong. Its so easy to run from your problems into someone Else's arms, but is more courageous to stay and fix this marriage don't u agree?
2006-08-31 23:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married, and part of being that team means that you're always goign to have to ask for her permission, and the same should go for her. this is going to lead down a bad road w/ a lot of hurt feelings, regrets, and a divorce.
2006-08-31 23:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by joe_smo_red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking? You already know the answer to that one. You are jeopardizing a marriage for lunch and fun. I find that completely out of character.
2006-08-31 23:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋