Do you ever feel that due to things like your spouses job, you feel like your alone in your marriage and raising your famliy? Even when the spouse is home they have their own agenda and it dosen't seem to mesh with yours. Does anyone else feel this way?
2006-08-31 15:32:20 · 30 answers · asked by Yvonne D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for some really good answers. I have been feeling this way for several years. We have to teenagers and my husbands job with the railroad keeps him away alot and when he's home hes has to get sleep. I love him and no matter how lonely I feel I would never do anything to hurt me. He deserves the best. I just want to vent a little and find out how others cope with it. Thanks.
2006-08-31 16:40:03 · update #1
I do. My husband is a trucker and i'am alone all week. I feel alone when he is home because he wants to do things without me when he is home and i want to be a whole family when he is home. The kids get to missing him alot. Sometimes i alone emotinally too. He don't understand what all i do, its all on me, to make sure the kids get taken care of, the bills are paid, the house don't burn down so i have to fix things myself, which iam becoming a pro at. I eat dinner with a 4 and 9 year old which i love and adore but i would love adult conversation, iam going to nursing school in october but even when i had a job before this i find myself talking about the kids. I feel like cinderella, being the maid wishing my rags would turn into a beautiful gown and i can have a week to my husband by ourselves. I just would love to feel acknowledge when he is home but he has this and that too do before he goes on the road, he has a great job but i feel so lonely and didnt think i would.
2006-08-31 16:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that!!! I was married for almost 10 years, things went south after about four years. I stayed for all the typical reasons... the kids, the church, the now non-exsistent stigma of divorcing. I ended up getting into a long distance relationship and when it finally came out to my husband, and he finally saw he was losing his wife due to his neglect, he seemed to wake up and see what he was doing wrong. But by then I was already in love with the other man... I'm now remarried and my current husband is well aware of the neglect I was subjected to and is very careful about making sure I never have to feel that way again. The worst thing you can do is nothing...You die a little everyday inside. I chose to live...and love!
2016-03-17 05:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm at work, I feel lonely, but then I go home and my wife reminds me why I married her.
2006-08-31 16:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Guam Teach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people feel this way. There will be periods where you could feel that way. If it's all the time, you have to decide if you can handle it as an indefinite thing, or try to find happiness elsewhere and end the marriage.
2006-08-31 16:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very fortunate that I've never felt this way. My husband worked 2 jobs for a couple of years, I did as well.We also worked full time jobs but different hours plus had 2 children. We were very busy but made the most of it when we were home for the week-ends. We survived this schedule, still have respect and love for each other. It takes 2 to make it work. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 16:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely... Over the years of our marriage, we don't seem to share the same interests any more. Her interests revolve around watching tlelvision, and mine are more active. She does not want to share in anything that I want to do, nor is she willing to try anything new. I would be all ears if anyone had an answer to why.
We have been trying counseling to make things better, and I have been trying to take interest in what she is doing... but there is only so much television one can watch.
So. yes, others feel that way. I wish it weren't so common. as to find me. But I guess it's life.
2006-08-31 16:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by boj12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a tough situation my wife deals with alot. I'm in the car business and that requires alot of hours. My dad warned my future wife 19 yrs ago that the car business took alot of time but she still married me. It can work...it feels bad missing out on some of the kids activities and stuff but whatever it takes to keep the house going comes first. Sad fact of the Bush economy is that its getting worse not better...moneys tight and ways to make it require more time than ever.
2006-08-31 16:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but then you make time to put that bond back together. If he doesn't put effort into it at first, you just keep at it till you get that look in the eye for each other again. Marriage is constantly going to need tending to, it what keeps it fresh and working.
Hoping it will fix itself will just not work, it ends in divorce or cheating.
2006-08-31 16:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP I DO, I m a stay at home mom and come to think of it, other than money I do everything around here.
Lonely, bored and I think to much.
How old are ya? Im 25 with one kid, email me if you get bored.
2006-08-31 16:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have an intresting marriage..I am the only man that see's his wife once or twice and that's on the weekends. Our situations different...where she lives more parents and still involved with her young adults. I am alright with it, and she appreciates my being there for her. Most men won't go for this but....this is the upside....plenty of good lovin' by week ends
2006-08-31 16:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Alluva52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋