I have a very close girlfriend of mine who is quite decent. She has a guy who jus likes to romance. Sometimes she will romance with him but sometimes she just dont want to do anything and just hug and talk, sometimes this will make her guy some sort of sad, frustrated which im not so sure of. He told her that when they do this "things", he felt being loved and loving when on the other hand, she felt its just purely for pleasure and the guilty feeling inside her. Sometimes when it gets really horny, he will want to make love with her but when she plead to him and refuse, he stops and he didn’t do anything after that. He said if he didn’t love her, he would have done it even when she plead to her. And that’s why sometimes he will tell her to suck so that he wont do anything to her once "it" came out. Can i know do every guy feel like this that it is loving to romance then it's more to lust? Can't they stop themselves form doing all this? I'm too curious about this matter.
2006-08-31 15:28:15 · 16 answers · asked by Faradoves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok. I have the same problem. I kno exactly how ur girl feels. Cuz there r times when I just wanna cuddle, chill, & talk. The other thing was that it wasn't just once or twice a day-it was four or six times a day. & I honestly felt like that was all he called me over for. I felt like he didn't want me for me-he just wanted a piece of a**. So, I talked 2 him about it, & I let him know what I felt. He was like if I wasn't giving it to him-I was giving it 2 somebody else. So I explain myself deeper & I put my foot down. Cuz it honestly urked me when he would begged for it. I don't know if every guy feels that way, but I know if he doesn't respect the fact that she doesn't wanna "make love" or n-e-thing else for that fact (eg. suck)-he doesn't respect her @ all. Cuz there is more 2 a relationship than just "making love." They can stop themselves from doing this, if she talks 2 him & lets him know what she really feels.
Hope that this helps a little.
2006-08-31 16:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is part of a romantic relationship, especially if u are in a relationship. It's a give and take thing, and involved anything. Some people will do it until they get married and then treat it like a chore.
I am not saying that you so it all the time, but do not decept people. If one want half a relationship, just get a friend.
sex is meant to be enjoyed by both parties and not treated like a chore. There will be times that one doesn't feel like it, and it's ok to say no, but if you don't want to do it at all, get a friend, or someone who is not into sex.
2006-08-31 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know when I am alone with my g/f andit get's hot and heavy to the point of wanting to have sex we both have to consider conseqences. If it's going to be a just to chill then we will I won't rock the boat. But if my g/f feels secure, protected, she'll in time and in her own way show me that she's primed and ready.
2006-08-31 16:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Alluva52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to turn off sex after a certain point. Yes should mean yes, or no should be said before the act begins. The law be damned, a man is not a faucet.
2006-08-31 15:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weiseentwerfer
2006-08-31 15:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderin' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the difficulty of understanding what you're trying to say--I think I do have a suggestion for you, I saw it on TV. Get a banana--no, that's ok.
2006-08-31 16:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by ann a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure if i follow? guys can stop if they want. to say anything else is a lie. this is why masturbation should be taught in sex-ed. better to spill ones seed on the ground then continue breeding unhappy lives.
2006-08-31 15:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like this, but if your friend wants something more than what he is giving her, it's time for her to find someone new.
2006-08-31 15:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by GAB & R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happen is:sometimes (many) there is only sex the focus between the couple.Others couples have a little love, and more interest in sex.others have, love plus sex.This couple seems to me is only sex,really.
2006-08-31 15:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuntrary to common opinion all guys are not the same, but most of them want whatever they can get even if it's only mud.
2006-08-31 15:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋