Your BF/GF's mother is ill in the hospital. Only family can visit, so you buy her sick mother a cake for your lover to deliver on your behalf.
1. Do you expect an additional Thank You after the cake was delivered? (Eg. The cake was delicious; Mom says thanks.)
Or
2. Do you feel the act of giving should be free from all expectations? (Eg. Altruism)
Choose one or the other and explain why.
2006-08-31 15:27:16 · 15 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
2 because I would not be giving her a cake only to hear a thank you. You do it to help them try to feel better. It would be nice to hear a thank you but you should never expect it.
2006-08-31 15:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-31 23:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never put cake and a hospital together before. What in the world would a hospital patient do with a whole cake? Maybe that's why you may not have gotten a 'thank you' because it's a little strange. Next time, just send flowers but check first to see if they have allergies.
2006-08-31 23:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by ann a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being in the hospital may mean that person is not going to be making a check list to send proper thank you notes to. The family's thank you should be more than enough.
Why would you send cake to someone in the hospital? Flowers puzzles or books are much better gifts for someone who might have their diet restricted by their doctor.
2006-08-31 22:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would like to say the act of giving is enough. But in reality, I think I would need at least some mention that she got it and liked it. I hate the fact that I need that reassurance, I do wish I could be truly altruistic, but I would begin to wonder "was it really delivered?" "was there something wrong with it?" "was she allergic and they aren't telling me". I usually end up prompting people and asking "did she like it?"
I would in no way ever expect to receive a written thank you or even a verbal one from her. I think I would just like my "lover" to tell me she liked it. Or that it at least brought a smile to her face.. something...
2006-08-31 22:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by goodlittlegirl11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give a gift from the heart there should be no expectations there to be thanked for it. If the receiver is a good person they would be thankful for the gesture by saying so or sending a card.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 22:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was sick and got out of the hopsital she probably is not in the right mind to give out thank yous. By the time she is healed she probably thought it would be too late to give you thanks or forgot. Just love the act that you did something. Being in the hospital is not fun.
2006-08-31 22:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by circusdejojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
# 2 because if I give my Lover's mom a cake b/c she is in the hospital I am doing it out of the goodness of my heart of course I don't expect a thank - you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 22:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to go with #2 since you are doing an act of kindness do you really expect an standing ovation?
2006-08-31 22:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are doing it out of kindness, you shouldn't feel bad about it if youy lover doesn't say thank you. They are probaly just in grief. If you are doing it to get "points" you are a perv and you shouldn't have done anything.
2006-08-31 22:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋