Episiotomy:?

Question

I had an episiotomy 6 weeks ago from this upcoming Monday. My doctor's appt. is at the 8 week mark. I was wondering how soon any of you had sex after having an episiotomy, or if you know how long it took for someone you know to have sex after one. I am scared that my cut/stitches may rip in some way, but I am definitely ready for sex haha... also, how easy would it be for it to rip?
Thanks everyone! :)

Also, would a condom hurt the stitches at all?

Answer 1

I didn't have sex until I went back to the DR and she gave me the OK. For me it hurt like hell, and we needed lots of lubricant.

Answer 2

it took me 6 months before I could have sex again and it was still hurting even then. I had 8 stitches from a tear, they don't do episiotomies before hand here very often. Most women are better off to rip then to be cut, if you get cut there is a higher chance you can tear further from that. Anyway we tried comdoms the first 2 times and I started bleeding a little again. Our son was born the end of Oct the tear was healed in about 10 days and the stitches were gone around 2-3 weeks I think. When i went for my check-up in March afterwards my OBGYN told me that everything was fine but that I could just be tender still after all I had just pushed out a big baby boy with a very round head.

If you haven't been back for your follow-up OBGYN check-up, I would suggest getting in for one and have a few questions on this ready for the dr.

good luck

Answer 3

I tore a LOT during labor, and had to get a lot of stitches. My husband and I had sex RIGHT at the six-week mark, because I couldn't wait any longer, and neither could he. :o)

I gotta tell ya, it HURT soooo bad! It was worse than when I lost my virginity. Next time, I'll wait at least 8 weeks.

By the time you're ready to have sex, there shouldn't even be any stitches. Typically it'll heal within six weeks, and by then, your stitches will dissolve. Your episitomy is healed mostly, but that doesn't mean it won't hurt.

I'd also recommend using lube. Typically after pregnancy, women won't produce as much natural lubrication as they did before they were pregnant.

Answer 4

I didn't have an episiotomy, I tore. My doctor gave me the go ahead after 6 weeks but told me that my scar was very tight and partially covered my vagina. He said I could use stretching tools to try to stretch it, but my husband and I decided to just be very slow and careful with sex. It hurt horribly but there wasn't any tearing, so unless your scar is really tight or covers your vaginal opening, I wouldn't worry about tearing again. Your doctor won't okay sex if he thinks this might happen. Also, I found that condoms helped a lot with the pain because they took away a lot of the friction. My advice is to make sure your doctor says it is okay and then use lots of lube and possibly a smooth condom.

Answer 5

They say you should wait about 6 to 8 weeks, I believe. I waited a quite a bit longer (12 weeks or so). I had quite a bit of tearing, so I was really scared to have sex after wards. It was a bit painful at first, and to tell you the truth, it still is sore to this day (my son is 2 1/2 years old now). I find that if my husband wears a condom that it is even more uncomfortable for me. My doctor told me that this is normal. Just take it really slow and use LOTS of lubrication.

Good luck!

Answer 6

When i had my son, i had a third degree tear, my doc started giving me a episiotomy but my baby couldn't wait long enough. Basically you are not supposed to have sex for 6 weeks after having this procedure done as it may be healed on the outside but not 100% on the inside! to be on the safe side avoid sex for a couple of weeks and you should still be bleeding abit after birth as far as i can remember, wait for that to settle down and go back to normal.

Answer 7

It doesn't rip easily. If it has been 6 weeks, it should be fine for you to have sex if you are feeling up to it. If it hurts too bad, then stop. My husband and I had sex 3 or 4 weeks after both of our children were born. Oh, and by the way, take it from me, you are very fertile right after childbirth...so use birth control! No one told me this until AFTER I got pregnant when our daughter was only 12 weeks old!!

Answer 8

6 weeks is definitely long enough. Your episiotimy should have healed by now. I would say that if you feel like it, you are ready. You're not having the kind of pain you were having the week after you had your baby, are you? If you're not, you're ready to have sex. It's not going to rip if you're feeling all healed up. Make sure you use birth control, unless you want to have kids 10-11 months apart!

Answer 9

my stitches were gone by 6 weeks that's when we had sex the doc gave us the okay AND we used a condom it was a bit painful at 1st as i guess things were not back to there usual state it felt a lil raw and burned i was breastfeeding i heard that makes you dry we had to stop and use lube..When our baby was 8 weeks i got a tiny tear that burned a lot the doc said it's common to have happen use neosporin sp? on it

Answer 10

Wait for your Doctor's appointment hun... the skin there is so very delicate and considering the trauma it's been through...try to refrain from having sex till you see your OBGYN. You have many years ahead of you to have all the sex you want...explain to your man that you just have to wait a little longer... and then when the doctor gives you the ok...plan something really special. May your new family be blessed...
ps...My name is Tasha also....woo-hoo...you go Tash ( i bet all the people close to you call you that) it takes one to know one!!!

Answer 11

6 to 8 weeks is about the norm. I think using a condom will make everything glide easier. Remember if you have any pain stop!! and call the Dr.