His ex-gf now works in another country & he told me they're separated. I've learned that the ex-gf is updating him of all her activities & work abroad & sending him money for support. My boyfriend is open to me & told me everything, should I ask the girl of what is really going on w/ them or is the girl only bitching?
2006-08-31 15:14:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I personally think to just have casual conversation, and not be pumping her about any intentions. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Who knows you may end up being friends.
2006-08-31 16:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way - is she really paying him, & if so why?
And who told you this? Yeah, they're separated - geographically.
It does sound like you are only hearing one story. But who's going to confirm his, to you?
What if he did loan her money and she's paying him back bit by bit? What if they happened to sell their house and he expects to see his half of the investment?
If it's not your business, all this, then how is the business of the person who told you? Is it too soon to ask all about his finances? Why can't you afford to wait & get to know him? Does he owe you money?
Don't be afraid to ask someone else, it might be a good answer. It depends on how you met him. Has he introduced you to anyone who knows him from before? Does he have any friends who trust him with money? How can you tell what he is really like? What's the rush? Why wouldn't you doubt him?
2006-08-31 15:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, he shouldn't have anything to do with his ex- gf if your dating him. Why is she giving him information on all her activities and sending him money? Maybe they are still together and he's playing the both of you. I think you should find out what is going on. Call her and talk to her. You have a right to know. Don't let him do this to you. He might have been honest to tell you because he thinks she is in another country and you would never find out. Don't let him fool you call her!
2006-08-31 15:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you along with her earlier than and didn't have the decency to let you know and also you needed to discover out for your self then i suppose it is noticeable he are not able to be depended on having a friendship along with her even as being in a dating with you. You ought to inform him that you don't think secure with him speaking to her after identifying approximately his historical past along with her. If he refuses to give up his conversation along with her then you recognize whatever is through a ways fallacious and also you must opt for what is pleasant for you and get a divorce with him. Also, if he real cared approximately you he could no longer have cheated on you so there's a well caution signal. Relationships are developed on believe, appreciate, and honesty. He has damaged all of those.
2016-08-21 07:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa hold on. Why is his ex girlfriend giving him money for support. That's a red flag that he's a loser and can't support himself. Also, you make it sound like his ex wife. You said they're separated? You don't separate from a girlfriend. You break up, and you're done. I wouldn't even bother talking to her. Dump him and run as fast as you can!
2006-08-31 15:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by summer_ella_06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you with her before and did not have the decency to inform you and you had to discover for yourself then i believe it is apparent he cannot be relied on having a friendship along with her whilst being in a relationship with you. You have to inform him that you do not think relaxed with him speaking to her after finding out about his historical past together with her. If he refuses to discontinue his communique along with her then you recognize something is by using far incorrect and you must decide upon what's pleasant for you and damage up with him. Also, if he real cared about you he wouldn't have cheated on you so there is a excellent warning signal. Relationships are built on believe, admire, and honesty. He has damaged all of these.
2016-08-09 13:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask her you are showing that you don't trust him and that's a recipe for disaster. Also if she is a jealous ex she is going to tell you lies to try and break you up. This is something that the two of you need to work out by yourselves.
2006-08-31 15:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no if its really over between them then it should be no communication at all and definitely no $ sending to him what kind of help does he need ask his mom and dad or go get a job call her and ask her what is going on and don't tell him your going to call her just call if you tell him he may talk with her first and warn her that you will call there must be something going on why would either one of them care how the other is doing if it is over
2006-08-31 15:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need a boyfriend who can support him self and not live off a girl... ever heard of " having your cake and eating too???
2006-08-31 15:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she is completely ex, and you will get hurt, you need to clarify things by setting limits, and meaning it, and this may require you to end it, as his attention is divided. This is a very difficult situation.
If he depends upon her for financial support, it is muddy. Protect yourself.
2006-08-31 15:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋