what does it mean when your fiance says he needs space from me and goes and lives somewhere else?

Question

what does it mean when your fiance says he needs space from me and goes and lives somewhere else? He says he still loves me but when i talk to him on the phone and i say I love You he says yeah i know. Im sooo confused. I want things to work out but he wont talk to me about things.

Answer 1

Sweetheart, I hate to say this, but moving away is a lot of space. I have a feeling he is too chicken to tell you how he really feeels. I wouldn't expect this to work out. Sorry...

Answer 2

I believe he's either nervous about the wedding or isn't sure what he wants and is taking time to think about it.

As hard as it sounds i would suggest you leave him be for the time being and just see what happens. If you love him you should give him some space.

BUT I would suggest, without looking desperate and worried, you talk with him. Ask him whats up and if there is anything else you can do to help. Tell him you are there for him and that you will do anything for him now.

Although if this lasts more than a few months you need to have him be aware that you have needs and wants too, and that it is unfair to leave you in the dark like this.

I wouldn't worry about it too much at this moment. Just be there for him! Win him all over again, he may really enjoy that and make him want to come back fast! Especially if he's doing this to think about what he wants, make him realize he wants you.

If he's nervous or worried, give him the time to mature. It will be because you are on totally different stages in life, and if it's not going to work, break it off.

Goodluck! I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Girl ignore his a**. I am so serious about this. I was just gonna say that it means wedding is off, but since you are wanting to work things out and he is not willing you have to turn the tables a bit. Another referral to The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Green. Disdain the things you cannot have. Read that chapter and do what it says. If you cannot read it, take my word for it and ignore his ***. If it tears ur heart out, ignore his calls and they will come more often. If he doesn't call, you should stop calling. Make it seem as if YOU CANNOT WAIT IN LIMBO FOR HIM to make up his damnit mind so you are going abouut life as usual.

If this doesn't bring him runnin back nothin else woulda worked either.

Answer 4

He means that he wants to see other people and dosen't want to see you all the time. Hon, I hate to tell you, but from my own personal experience, when he tells you that and moves out, he is already seeing someone else. If thats the way he treats you then you are better off with out him. If something that hadn't happened to me, I never would have met the man I am married to now. We have been married for 15 years now. So tell this guy that you need your space to and find a guy that really respects you!! Good luck Hon.

Answer 5

I have a feeling you may be in a bit of denial. If he moved to get away, I don't think its a good sign at all. If you tell him you love him and his response is "I know", people in love do not say that. I get a feeling something is definitely going on with him and is having a hard time telling you. I think you can feel the change in your relationship other wise you wouldn't be asking what others think. He owes you the courtesy of the truth. Leaving you hanging on to guess isn't very considerate at all, so tell him its time to get everything out in the open. I wish you luck!

Answer 6

your relationship is on uncertain ground....... as you can feel, I'm sure.

The two of you haven't really learned to communicate.... to actively listen to each other's interests and desires.... to positively support each other---especially during difficult times.

When one gets away, it usally means they REALLY need space to sort out their own thoughts, to relieve stress (from NOT communicating effectively together) and to have some personal time for thinking and reflection. It can also be the signal they are about to break up, but wanted private time to think it through and ensure they were doing what is best for their own sanity and happiness long-term.

truely there isn't anything wrong with this. We all NEED happiness, but it doesn't come neatly packaged..... you've got to provide for His, and He provides for yours. Things are 'posed to work that way........ but right now they aren't.

I think the worst thing you could do would be to antagonize him further, or to pressure him to returning. I think the best thing you could do is to tell him a two-point message: "Look, I want things to work out.... so to that end, I'm gonna be patient in waiting for you. Also, I will be a better listener and communicator with you---hoping you'll work the same way with me".... then BE QUIET. END of MESSAGE.

If the relationship is GOING to work out...... he'll hear your sincerity ('cause you ARE really wanting those things, right???) and will return. However, if he doesn't want the relationship to continue, then learn some lessons....... take your time in getting together with the next guy, build the relationship FIRST, do some ACTIVE listening, be a calm positive-oriented communicactor and work to always further the relationship.

You've got choices and possibilities......... GO for it!

I wish you the VERY best of luck here!

Answer 7

Well first give him what he is asking for which is space. Don't say I love you for now. Stop calling him for a while. If you keep calling him, you are not giving him the space he wants and he'll just grow to be annoyed because you are always there in a sense. Show him that you can have a life outside of him.

Answer 8

Honey let me tell you he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. If he did he would be there by your side. A relationship is part of sharing yourself, your soul with someone else. He clearly doesn't know what that means or what it means to you. Thats being selfish. If he knew he had issues he should have been real man and just told you. Move on sweety...theres better out there...for you...god bless.

Answer 9

just give him some time to think clear his head it can be that he still loves you but he just wants to slow down the pace a bit sometime people get like that where they feel smothered by the other person and need to get away it was good of him to tell you he needed some time alone better for him to do that than for him to have gone out and cheated on you i say about 1month should do it and ask him where does he want to be with you or single

Answer 10

It means that he needs space. He has doubts. He may not be that "into" you. And you don't want to marry a man who is having doubts. He may love you, but not be "in love" with you.

Give him space, and if he comes back, fine. Otherwise, look elsewhere. Give him an ultimatum...3 months. Don't call him, let him call you.

Trust me, I'm old and I know this stuff!