So tomorrow I find out if I am actually pregnant. I told my ex when my period was late and I began to feel sick all the time he said "oh thats sad what do you want me to do about it?" I was just wondering if I should let him know what the DR. says. I mean he told me flat out he didnt care and that he wasnt coming back, but should that stop me from telling him anyway?
2006-08-31 14:49:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should tell him,, i mean , weither he cares or not is besides the point,,, you never know what kind of emotions a man can have they are so confusing ,, but tell him,, weither he comes back or not it totally up to him,, but you wont have the weight on your shoulders of not telling him he is going to have a daughter or son,,, and if he doesnt want to help ,,, take ALL his money Chick,...
2006-08-31 15:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes468 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him.
If you are pregnant then it is not about him coming back to you. You will have to put all your feelings aside and think about the baby.
You will have to get a lawyer and get things settled in the courts... child support, visitation, vacation time, are you able to move with your child out of state without permission? Does he need to keep health insurance on the child? Will he pay 1/2 of all non insured bills? Is he going to help out with college financial aid forms.
All kinds of things that will pop up through the years.
Good Luck to you!
2006-08-31 22:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell him. . . He will find out when you take him to child support... If he is treating you like this now, do not give him the importance of including him in your decision. If you are going to keep the baby, hopefully, you will have support from your parents and friends and you will be able to manage with the baby financially if you are employed, etc., if you are able to manage on your own., I would not include him at all. Men think that because a woman finds out that she is pregnant, they NEED to go after them and that they will die without them. You need to show him and yourself now that you are going to be a mother, that you are an independent woman and that you are able to take care of yourself without the need of a man... Once your baby is born, then you simply file a petition for child support, if you even need his money. He will come around and realize that he is missing out on his childs life...
2006-08-31 23:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most definitely tell him. And make it clear to him that it's not a ploy to get him back, because men seem to think all women get pregnant in a desperate attempt to trap them, which is not always the freakin case! You let him know, get the paternity test if and when you have the baby, and get child support from him. That's it.
2006-08-31 22:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by missyboo_79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. He has the right to know that he's having a child, but don't get too upset if he acts like a jerk. If he's going to be negative then you don't want him even if he does want to come back.
2006-08-31 23:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him because then when u go to get child support he cant act all nice that day also when u do file for child support get a paternity test done so he cant say hes not the father
2006-08-31 22:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by christie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and tell him you're happy his deadbeat *ss is out of the picture. tell him you'll find a real man to be part of your child's life.
2006-08-31 23:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him because it is his child and he has a right to know.
2006-08-31 22:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by g_bug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. That way he won't be too surprised when you sue his heartless a$$ for child support. I hate dead beat dads.
2006-08-31 22:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let the wimpy jerk know that he has a child. if he is too scared to do anything further thats on him, but he has a right to know.
2006-08-31 22:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by JaSam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋