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My roommate "Al" makes extreme messes. Examples: He'll marinate meat with 4 different sauces on steaks, and pork chops. Then with a meat mallet will proceed to hit and pound the sauced meat and it will spatter the entire kitchen all over like blood. He even breaks glasses for no reason, as i have found when I am not there. His bed -- he throws everything off, sheets and even the bed ruffle is halfway ripped like he got a razor blade and started hacking it. When he enters a door he kicks it hard with his foot and scares the crap out of our roomies, Everyone keeps quiet.... Tell us what we can do!

2006-08-31 14:34:04 · 26 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Social Science Psychology

26 answers

if he really scares you and its your place , get the police to show him out, giving him any kind of notice could turn his actions somewhere else like on you , just tell the police your scared, all of you get together write statements and get him gone with no notice if he fights the police he goes to jail , sounds like its the step to the asylum he needs to take , good luck to you

2006-08-31 14:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten,Doc 6 · 0 0

Who is on the lease? If he is, and it is causing ALL of the other roommates a problem -- you can file for Eviction -- due to property damage, destruction of property, etc etc etc -- because right now, there is damage, and since none of you are doing it (except him -- and make sure you take photos).

Next time something is destroyed -- call the police -- because this is downright scary -- and I would be AFRAID to be alone in the same place with this kind of thing happening -- I hope you and the other roommates are being real careful and NOT being there alone when he is there right now.

He may need to be hospitalized for a while too. Some of this may be evidence of a psychiatric illness (which he may not be aware of).

2006-08-31 14:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1 0

This guy is scary. I think the most logical, as well as safest way to handle this situation would be for you and the other roomates to wait until he's gone, pack your things, and leave. Make sure you guys don't leave him with the bills, as this will really make things even worse. Leave the house clean, and leave him a nicely worded note. Tell him how you feel, but do it kindly.
He sounds extremely angry, and he probably feels like he has no control over his life. You have to leave him with as much dignity as you can. You can even make the letter sound like you believe he doesn't want you there, but doesn't want to hurt YOUR feelings by asking you to leave. Then, you can tell him that to preserve the friendship, and make it easier on him, you've decided to move.
It must be done this way, otherwise, you could very easily end up with him going postal, and killing all of you. Seriously.
I wish you all the luck in the world.

2006-08-31 14:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0 0

MULTIPLE CHOICE:

A. all you roomies sit down with him and tell him to act
more civilized.. and why

B. Make a list, (all of you) of the things he destroys, and
the occasions when he acts bizarr and confront him
with all of these facts,
C. Investigate his background, his family life ect, and past
friends and get some insight on him
D. All of you sign a eviction notice,, and give him the boot
E. All of you go to anger management, (with him,) FORCE
HIM TO GO, as a condition of remaining a roommate.
F. HIDE HIS SHOES, UNTIL HE OPENS A DOOR WITH
HIS HANDS.
G. DO NOTHING, BUT KEEP HIM HAPPY, AND DONT
ANGER HIM..
H. DON'T LET HIM COOK, USE GLASSES, TAKE THE
DOOR OFF THE HINGES.. AND SET BOOBEY TRAPS
FOR HIM.

OK, There are a few suggestions,
it sounds like he is a slob, and needs to be taught
some manners, and consideration for living with
others,
Since there are a few of you,, i suggest you guys hold andy joking comments, and be real serious with him about
how his actions are effecting all of you,, and be kind to him,, but let him know he is offensive.

good luck PS. "AL" LIKE IN AL BUNDY..LOL

2006-08-31 15:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0 0

That grew to become into frightening! Yeah, i might've left the abode too. once you're a woman, i do certainly not recommend a woman to have a male for a roommate,unlessen this is her brother. i'm extreme. i would not desire him for my roommate. No way!! he sounds too violent, and definite it is violence for him to throw a cup someplace. communicate on your friends approximately him. enable them to be responsive to how he's,in case,God forbid he do some thing worst to you, you're able to have witnesses. confirm you share this with somebody in guy or woman. i might pass. i would not be gentle understanding that he identity so indignant and sound asleep suitable around the corner.do not recommend to scare you,yet issues grotesque occurs so frequently. Take care!!

2016-10-01 03:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

It would be nice if you could just tell him,to get the heck out,but even an ******,has rights. Your safety seems to be an issue,so it shouldn't be difficult to get him out. Start documenting his behavior,take pics,etc. Otherwise you guys(remaining roommates)are going to be held liable for damages)Give him a 30 day notice(asap)verbal or written(written better),that way,you've covered your A. Hopefully,he'll just go,if not,take his A to court! Peace,Y.

2006-08-31 15:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

Sounds like he has a lot of anger.

Who is on the lease? If it's him, then the rest of you need to move out. I really don't recommend confrontation with him though. Suggesting anger management classes to him is next to useless, since people generally won't go to those unless court ordered.

2006-08-31 14:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0 0

You need to send one person to talk to him about it. If it's all of you he'll feel ganged up on. Just talk about how you guys are worried and don't like what is going on. If it doesn't work you may have to tell him that he is not working out as a roommate.

2006-08-31 14:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by spezlee 3 · 0 0

Legally, quietly and CAREFULLY evict him or ask him to leave when he isn't acting like a lunatic. Don't set him off - see if maybe there is someone he trusts who can help get him out of your place

Be careful...sounds volatile. Worst case scenario I'm sure the cops might help -

2006-08-31 14:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 1 0

Get one of those electronic bullhorns, and whenever he pulls off that kind of crap, just blow the old bullhorn three times. Confiscate his chrystal meth and crack pipe.
Is this a college suite? If so go to "Housing" together and request a replacement FAST!

2006-08-31 14:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 1 0

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