Is it appropriate for daycare providers to kiss the children?

Question

What do you all think about this? My son is 5 months and has been in day care for about six weeks. It is a facility that cares for infants and toddlers. Well, the person who takes care of my son primarily, kisses him on the cheeks and very near the mouth a lot. I know this because she'll give him at least two in front of me on most days. I even noticed her very close to his face and nearly kissing him when she had a bad cold a few weeks ago. Two days later, he had a bad cold. I think that day care providers who are not family should not be kissing on kids, period. I want to say something to the woman but don't know how to do so without hurting her feelings. It's clear to me that she loves babies and caregivers of children should be loving; however, I feel that constant kisses is inappropriate and am disturbed every time I see it happening.

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

First of all children get germs, they all do even the young ones. Especially when they are around other children. Colds are a virus and they usually don't show symptoms until 5-10 days after exposure so her kissing him 2 days before he got a cold was probably not the culprit.
Second you should be thankful that you have found such a great daycare center where the provider loves you child and attends to his needs. One of the biggest needs of an infant is affection that is how they learn to love and be loved. IF you are putting your child in daycare for 8 hrs a day how do you expect to show him all the affection he needs? I don't think it is bad that he is in daycare I do think that you should be a little less paranoid and a little more thankful for what they are doing for your son.

Answer 3

If you feel uncomfortable, then you should do something. I am sure the last thing you want to do is hurt someone else's feelings especially someone who takes care of your child. But this is your child and it is hard enough I am sure to leave such a new baby everyday on top of this extra worry. I do not think it appropriate,nor do I think you have to say something to her. Go to your day care coordinator or whoever her direct boss is. Tell her the problem, explain your qualms and worries and if the problem isn't resolved you should try and look in to a new daycare facility. I have heard good ones are hard to find, I stay home with my children, but I did do the daycare for a few months before. THe main thing is if you feel uncomfortable then right or wrong it is your baby and your decision what happens to him. Good luck!

Answer 4

OK.. to start off. I worked at a daycare before.. she should not be kissing the baby with a bad cold! What is she thinking?? I wouldve defiantly told her whats up especially since your baby got sick.. Nothing is wrong with kisses but constant ones..? i dont know maybe you're overreacting.. not to sound mean.. but some of the moms that i worked with overreacted about little things..She is giving him love and attention so be happy for that. At least he is not getting ignored and sitting in a stroller all day.
Tell the lady how you feel though.. its up to you in the end. I wish u luck!

Answer 5

*gasp* God forbid a woman should show affection to the children in her care!!!!

I used to be the infant care manager in a child development center. That means I was in charge of the staff that looked after the infants. Those infants were in our care for 8-12 hours a day. I'm sorry but it is very difficult not to bond with children you care for that many hours, five days a week. We were there for all their mile stones. Where were the parents? It is very difficult to provide nurturing for a child and not want to cuddle and kiss that child. What are we...robots? You should be grateful you have a caring provider who obviously likes her job and enjoys the children. Instead of bitching about it maybe you should thank her for taking such good care of your precious child.

It is bad enough that parents dump their kids in daycare and let someone else raise them. But now you're complaining because the person you've hired to do that is TOO loving? Give me a friggin break! Maybe you should find one of those places where they leave the kids in cribs all day and rarely answer their cries and when they do hold them they don't talk to them or love them at all. Sound like that would suit your needs better.

Answer 6

I think people are being too mean to you saying you cop out on your chilld. Some people have to work to support their kids. Anyways my mom has a daycare, and so do I. I never got sick until I had a daycare, kids make others kids sick more often than adults, I promise that. As far as kidding, on the cheek is fine, it is true, you want a daycare provider that loves and adores your child and gives them affection...not just food, entertainment and someone to make sure they are safe, a lot of hours a child needs love.

Answer 7

Well ik have two things like i know lots of people who do daycare and i would rather have my kids in a day care where i know the people cause i go to church and they go to my church and i would ratyher put my kids there and there i woudndt miknd if the kiss my kids but if they had a cold i would make sure to call it out. and 2 if i put them in like a public daycare i would definitly not want them kissing my kid esspecially if my child was 5mths, now if it was to happen where they like kissed there hand or they like huged them that wouldnt make me mad that much but you should adreess that

Answer 8

well if you feel bad telling her maybe you could go to someone else in the facility and tell them so they can talk to her about it. my friend is studying childcare at the moment and she tells me that the daycare or childcare providers are not aloud to kiss the kids, they can teach them affection by being nice and giving them a cuddle when they arrive and leave but thats it as far as i know. u shoud say something if this is causing you stress.

Answer 9

The daycare where my daughter stayed had workers who kissed her. It didn't bother me, because I knew they loved her. I wouldn't want someone who was sick kissing her. I guess if you don't like it you could ask the daycare director to talk to her if you aren't comfortable doing it. Babies need love and attention though. Babies who don't get that usually have some problems.

Answer 10

Wow, she probably in simple terms scarred that youngster for existence, that may not the thank you to physique of recommendations it in any respect, undesirable element, he's barely human.. and a human little boy! Boys would be boys lol, and he's 9, he's time-honored with of he likes ladies he thinks they are extraordinarily and is interested in them.. 9 is with regard to the age they start to word ladies extra. you're precise, he might desire to of flippantly been talked too approximately the way it isnt ideal at his age, and it rather is punctiliously ok for him to have those emotions to boot. i've got faith undesirable for this little boy and that i don't even understand him! My son is 6, if he the place to be caught doing that, whilst he have been given a splash older, i does not even floor him, identity in simple terms clarify it fairly is not ideal.. how became that little boy think to appreciate? in any case, my first kiss became 5th grade, i became 10 and it became harmless, the boy became 9.. we kissed approximately 3 or 4 circumstances, held palms an hugged now and returned.. of direction it became basically a p.c.. and not something extra. He became my first boyfriend and it became in simple terms harmless.

Answer 11

I would be grateful of the affection being shown on my child. Would you rather they prop your son in a corner and never touch him? Your child is in a daycare with other children. He's going to get sick - alot. Be prepared to miss alot of work due to this for the next few years.