My Bestfreind have been married for 10 years i think and have 3 Kids. Last 4 years ago he had an affair and the girl confronted tot he wife hoping that the wife would divorced him and he would married her but it did not turn out that way as i was there witnessing it, He loves her so much that he would not leave her. So, they talk and did not leave each other but their relationship gets better. Recently the wife confronted him about saying that why din she revengeg on what he had did to her before as revenge is sweet. She said in a way that there is a guy is flirting with her and dont mind that she is married too just wanted a non-realtionship as both is married. What would you do from here? Look for the men? Leave her?
2006-08-31 14:12:57 · 18 answers · asked by jack81sg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want a serious answer, you need to spell check and read this thing to yourself before you submit it.
As far as I can tell, he cheated, they agreed to stay together, and now she's saying she has a chance for revenge. The problem here is not if she cheats, but that she agreed to stay with him and won't let the prior affair drop. If you're going to agree to stay together then you both have to agree that the prior affair is in the past and not bring it up to be hurtful during a fight, or as a way to hurt someone by getting even. He should tell her that. He needs to keep in mind whether he stays or not he really can't keep her from doing this if she wants. He should just make sure she knows that the marriage may be too broken to save if she does that. It was not in the best shape to begin with.
2006-08-31 14:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to marriage counseling. While beating the crap out of the guy would be fun,it doesn't fix the root problem of her wanting to be flirted with. Relationships are about moving forward ... what happened in the past can not be changed. Do they each want to satisfy each other and only each other for the rest of their lives? If yes, the flirting needs to stop - a woman can make it clear its not wanted. If no, counseling followed by either an improved marriage or divorce.
2006-08-31 14:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her 2 wrongs don't make a right and if she is looking for revenge why come and tell him just go and do it she wants to hurt him more than anything and if its about revenge for her why accept the apology move on in the marriage things got better now she wants to go f*** it up by doing this no way tell him if she goes for it he is walking statue of limitation is over she should of done it when she first found out about him this is not a game real life
2006-08-31 14:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it okay for the husband to go off and be bad but if the wife does it he'll leave her? In an Ideal world neither one would have cheated but he did and I'm sure the wife is resentful and wants revenge.
2006-08-31 14:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs definitely do not make a right. It appears that his wife has never forgot and cannot forgive. If you really love someone you can forgive as none of as are perfect and have many temptations in our lives to fight off.
2006-08-31 14:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to go to couples counseling with her. They should try to stay together if they love each other. Revenge is not always sweet, sometimes it ends relationships.
2006-08-31 14:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing with fire. She can only do harm to her marriage by being unfaithful. I think they should see a counselor and finish the work needed to put his infidelity behind them completely.
2006-08-31 14:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie........This is none of your business......so, BUTT OUT!!! Your friend and her husband are playing hurtful games and if that is how they choose to live their lives.....then stop being so concerned take care of what you are doing in your life. Since your friend is not asking everyone on Yahoo for advise......why are you????
2006-08-31 14:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is great Jerry Springer stuff!!!!1
2006-08-31 14:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to grammar school you fu**in' retard. Learn to put a proper sentence together and stop making up bu**s*it
2006-08-31 14:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by puresatin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋