I've known all my life that my mother didn't like me basically because I was born but I never thought she would go to the extent to telling my 3 young kids that (all 3 under the age of 11). Now, I refuse to let my kids around her. This is a woman that has given birth to 5 children and only has 1 left that will even talk to her. She has no remorse whatsoever on throwing away her own 4 children. She tells me to get over it and to stay out of her life. Now she wants to take me to court for grandparents rights, how well do you think that would go over with the judge? Would it be stupid of me to let my kids around her knowing that there could be a chance that the same thing could happen to them? Your opinions would be greatly appreciated.
2006-08-31 14:06:40 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have the same problem. When I have kids they will not see my mother unless she makes an effort now with me. And that is going to take alot for me to give in to that. Stand your ground, do not let this woman see your kids, just because she gave birth to you does not give her any rights. Sometimes the people in our lives that mean the most to us have no blood relation. Make sure that you don't cheat your kids out of other older people that you know that can act as grandparents and spoil them because their kindness and wisdom is good for your kids but not a mother that defecates you, to you, infront of your children or to your children. This type of woman can be damaging and has been, look what she has done to you! Good luck and be strong!
2006-08-31 14:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my mother.. tell her she can see them when they are 18 if they want to see her..
she has no business around you kids.. do you have any proof of her telling the kids that she hates you? get as much on her as you can written or tape recorded. then just let her hang herself and you won't have to worry about her seeing them..
take the part about her telling you to stay our of her life and find it on tape or something.. that would go for your family too.
judge won't think to much of the woman but best if you are taken to court is to have some proof of how she has treated you and what some of the things that she has said to you and your kids. In the mean time don't worry about it.. tell her she can't see the kids.
and don't talk any more
figure out a way to tape every phone call she makes to you.. every letter that says anything.. get a restraining order on her if she trys to come around.. that will be some proof for you in its self
hope everything will work out for you
2006-08-31 14:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never want my children to be subjected to such a hurtful person. Mother or not. Any woman can give birth - that doesn't make a Mother. Stay away from her. Raise your children in a love filled, caring environment. If your mother doesn't like it, tell her "to get over it" and move on.
2006-08-31 14:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Paige2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 03:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree with you as well, specially with your mother telling your kids that she hates you. Tell her to grow up, and when she does, then maybe you'd consider letting her see your kids again.
2006-08-31 14:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Silverstang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she told your kids that, i'd tell her to go to hell!! she had no reason to tell your kids anything. my mother and i weren't talking for a while (i know its different) but, my kids were encouraged to see their grandmother. but, had she bad mouthed me that would be it. i would've been done with worrying about the kids seeing her. good luck to you. she's gonna mess up the kids minds by saying stuff about you. so wrong!!
2006-08-31 14:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by toonotshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame, but the truth is, we cannot pick our parents. Pray for her soul, and get a restraining order. Explain to your children that she is a bad influence, and a bad person, and that unless and until she atones, she is not welcome in your life, and therefore, by extension, theirs.
2006-08-31 14:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by longhair140 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has NO right to see her kids if she says things like that to them. get a lawyer and fight her on it. sounds like she needs to grow up. you are doing the right thing not letting them get close to her, cuz what if one day she does that to them too. Good luck and i hope things get betterfor you.
2006-08-31 14:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by brknarrow23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and fight her. Your children do not need to listen to her denigrate you.
2006-08-31 14:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep you're kids away from her. They are impressionable.
2006-08-31 14:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy5454 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋