i have this best friend, i want us to be more than best friends, she doesnt know how i feel, but now shes moving, i feel like i should tell her, but im scared of getting rejected for the last time
2006-08-31 14:01:41 · 34 answers · asked by N0LaNbPiMpIn985 F.O.B. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her know. The last thing you want is for there to be a question nagging in your mind. Those turn into regrets.
2006-08-31 14:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by phoebster818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Take a chance . Guys get in the hall of fame getting a hit only 3 times out of 10 tries. If she rejects you, so what - she's moving. If she doesn't it will be a beautiful thing. She should know. You can still go see her in the future. Eventually you can be with her but not if you don't make a now move before she goes. Get her some choc late or flowers alone and tell her how you feel. She will be clear at that point with her feelings and you go from there. You will regret it everyday for a long time if you don't communicate clearly before she goes.
2006-08-31 14:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think, omg i cant say that to her, she will turn away from me and never want to look at me again, she will judge me, and end up hating me?
Well maybe not that bad but, if you imagine the worst that could happen, then ask yourself, if she did react that way, would that be fair, an over-reaction? or something else,
All your doing is expressing strong feelings for a friend.
Before you tell her, just make sure you understand your not doing a bad thing, so if she does go all weird on you, then you can think back to "your not doing a bad thing" and a rejection won't seem to bad
If i was you, i would start a joke, about what could of of happened between you if she wasnt going away, then try to read her reactions to the joke before telling her your feelings
Goodluck
2006-08-31 14:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pauly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's moving, why bother? Ask yourself - what are you hoping to accomplish if you do tell her? Once you think you know, because only you know the answer to that one, you can probably figure out if it's really worth it to pursue her. Because if you do decide to tell her, then you are pursuing her, just at a time when she is moving away, and you have to face the fact that you have specifically waited until now to do anything about your feelings. It's like you are saying "I am scared of getting rejected" after deliberately set yourself up to GET REJECTED. You are afraid it's going to happen - well duh of course it's going to happen NOW. Forces beyond your control have now come into play, as they are often wont to do if we let things go undealt-with. Don't beat yourself up. If you guys are friends hold onto that no matter what. If your friendship survives, your mutual love, if it is meant to be, will eventually blossom on its own. Stay in touch for sure. But don't mess up the friendship.
Peace
2006-09-08 13:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by mustihearthis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, fight the fear, pop the question. That little lump in your throat called pride may bruise, but will heal. If you don't ask ,you will never know what could have happened. What if she decides your right and that the two of you should have considered this a long time ago. Having a best friend as your woman, really is a great beginning, to a lasting relationship. Just think how happy you could be. Fear retards success!!!
2006-08-31 14:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by A Friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you gotta tell her what you feel about her, i mean, she's moving right? you just have to tell it to her, FAST!!! true that you might get rejected & hurt but, wont it hurt much more if she's gone w?o you being able to let her know how you feel? its fine to get hurt cuz after some time you'll still get over it all & walk away with one good lesson. & what if she also feels the same way you do? it'll be a shame if you wont give it a shot.........
2006-08-31 14:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by b'By sTyK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her you do risk getting hurt but if you don't you'll never know...and are you willing to take that chance? If your willing to always and I mean always and forever wonder if maybe just maybe there was something there and you could have changed things and been with her but you didn't take the chance then keep your mouth shut and watch her walk away...but if that isn't a chance your willing to take...tell her NOW!
2006-08-31 14:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by monkey_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take chances. You will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't tell her how you feel. The worst that could happen is her saying no, and you won't even have to see her anymore after she moves. Besides the more chances you take the more things will happen.
2006-08-31 14:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either now or never and if you get rejected you should move on and still be friends
2006-08-31 14:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by GIrl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Never know where it goes and if it goes nowhere at least you won't kick yourself later for never telling her. Rejection goes away but not knowing,wondering about something can eat you up!
2006-08-31 14:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋