My boyfriend constantly wants me to tell him I love him. He likes to hear how I feel about him and enjoys compliments.
I wrote him a letter telling him all these things and said how excited I am that we are together. He wrote a letter back with only 1 line in it about how he feels about me.
Is this normal? It's come up before so I think it's just the way he is.
2006-08-31 13:50:16 · 6 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think some men have trouble expressing themselves when it comes to love. Maybe he has been hurt by someone before and is having trouble getting past the pain. Maybe he came from a family where love was not expressed.
The point is, do you think he loves you? If you can accept that he really does love you but cannot express it well, then you have a great chance at a long-term relationship.
2006-08-31 14:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel he is way to insecure to even be in a relationship. It's a two-way or the highway baby! It's about complimenting each other and making each other feel good. If he needs that much reassurance from you and doesn't want to reciprocate, well, there are ones out there who will. But it sounds like maybe you don't need to hear it as much as he does.... so if you are ok with that....than that's ok too....but I don't think you'd be asking if you were.....
2006-08-31 14:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has low self esteem and is relying on you to boost it. If he tells you how wonderful you are and is sincere about it, then I think its okay.....but if he just wants you to tell him you love him so he can hang up the phone and feel good about himself, he could be a jerk. I know this type very well and unless he reciprocates what you give him, leave him. Eventually he will have you doubting yourself, the way he doubts himself.
Not all guys are like this either, you got a flunkie.
2006-08-31 13:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Men aren't the way they are because they want to drive women crazy; they've been trained to be that way for thousands of years. And that training makes it very difficult for men to be intimate."
Men have been taught that to be emotional is weakness and they have a issue with expressing themselves emotionally. If he wrote down his feelings to you however short it may be, trust me it took a great effort. You should take tremendous comfort in what he wrote to be what he truly feels. Leave it at that or you'll create and issue between you.
2006-08-31 14:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by JReb_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys feel inadequate when it comes to expressing their feelings. They shy away for any number of reasons, afraid of being hurt again or not taken seriously or just plain afraid of committment.
2006-08-31 14:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by trusport 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is sensetive , he likes hearing you say it , but he has trouble expressing his feelings, yes thas normal
2006-08-31 13:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by should i ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋