hello i am now a single mother my babys father left me and him and now he says he doesnt love me anymore and hes moved on i am having a hard time letting go and moving on someone tell me what to do please help me
2006-08-31 13:26:58 · 14 answers · asked by xxmommasgirl2005xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's not a man...he can't handle responsibility. Let go, let, go, let go. He's just gonna keep on running anyway. The hurt will leave you eventually and you'll be better off without him. Pain you don't need. Do the best you can...that's all you can do.
2006-08-31 13:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the exact same thing at the exact same time, although I'm about a year and a half ahead of you. I spent the last 18 months figuring this out. We got dumped and they moved, which makes us feel horrible. Learning that its ok to feel like that and if you truely do want to move on, take some time and grieve. I'm a guy and its very difficult to do. If you want to move on, you hope for success at that. The only way this can happen is to get over the last one first. Take some time, cry, feel lonely, go through the emotions it takes to heal. Do not shut yourself off and learn to ASK for help. Again, hard for me to do. We loved and got rejected, lets heal, take some time to figure ourselves out, and choose better next time. Love hurts and right now with every breath. Show your baby love from you, not the hate you feel. Be positive for the child, hate if you wish to friends and family. The emotions you feel are normal and suck really, really bad. I'm sorry.
2006-08-31 20:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by kmusic212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing.
This is a horrible situation. Not only has your man left you but he adds insult to injury by telling you he doesn't love you anymore.
How long ago did this happen? If recently, then you have every right to grieve and cry. If it was months ago the pain is still there but should be diminishing.
Allow yourself time to accept the situation. It doesn't sound like he's coming back. So you need to move forward with your life.
You need to be strong for your child. Are you also a working mother? You can find affordable day-care for your child and still work. If you are not working then you might find one of the few government agencies left to help you.
I hope this helps. I am recently divorced with visitation rights to my daughter and I understand the pain you feel.
One final thought. Doesn't this woman's plight make you teenagers with your kissing and prom problems feel small and ashamed?
D
2006-08-31 20:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how long has he been gone? You will no doubt, feel bad for a while, especially if this came as a shock to you. Secondly, you have to know that things will get better. Believe that, because it will. Right now, your priority is your son. Even though the father has left, he's responsible for helping you support your child. Don't play around with that. Get to Child Support Enforcement and get a child support order.
Now, when you're feeling especially low...after your child is in bed, shut the lights off, sit in the middle of your kitchen floor with a candle and a cup of hot tea, and listen to sad songs and bawl your head off. You need to release some of that pent up pain, girl! It's hard to grieve when you have a child to care for, but you need to do that. Believe me, after a little while...you'll realize that this guy wasn' t the one for you. You deserve better...you deserve someone who will commit to you, as you will to them. It's a bit early to think about the next 'someone' right now, but for the moment, you need to realize that you're going through a normal grieving process, and things will start looking up soon.
2006-08-31 20:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakups are really hard, and you with a baby. Yes your heart hurts right now but if you just let let it go you'll get over him. What does he say about the baby?? Is it just you he doesn't love anymore or did the responsibility of fatherhood frighten him off?
2006-08-31 20:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by lonestaremt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear, that sucks...
It hurts so bad to have your heart broken like that..
I think you have to try your hardest to move on,
On the bright side, your bot is still a baby, so it won't be nearly as hard on him.
All things happen for a reason, you'll find the man of your dreams who loves your baby, and i hope you'll be so happy.
And as for as your ex goes...
He doesn't even know what he's missing... your life is going to be great without him,.
Give it time, i hope you takes good care of yourself, and your baby...
2006-08-31 20:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to just take a deep breath. Ok now if he doesn't love you then there is nothing you can do about it. I would suggest looking for support groups from a local organizaion or from a church. Just relax, every thing happens for a reason and then works itself out.
2006-08-31 20:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Channing W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize you made a mistake in who you chose to father your son. You don't need someone like this man in your life nor does your son. Focus on raising your son and being the best role model for him. You can do it!
Good luck!
2006-08-31 20:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds harsh. Life is sometimes HARSH. He's gone. Get a lawyer. And now go out and find a decent lay. Best thing for ya.
2006-08-31 20:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Do not dispair. If he left you (for reason unknown) then good riddens for you and your baby. Make a new start foryou and your child and one day you ll meet the right guy
Good luck honey
2006-08-31 21:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by lovehhssbb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋