Where have all the true friends gone?

Question

More and more these days, I find that most of the people I meet aren't great friend material, and those that are always end up stabbing me in the back. What has happened to true friendship and why do most people just interested in what they can get out of it?

Answer 1

True friends are hard to find I agree....it takes time to find them...as you get older you realize how much you don't have in common with them or something like that...as I've gotten older I've grew apart from so many of the people I thought would be my friends always.....now that I'm older my interest in conforming to groups has died down a lot ...I suppose that's why friends are so hard to find...

Answer 2

Welcome to the real world. It's true what you say most people are interested in what they can get out of a relationship but hopefully, you will meet some genuines out there. Friends are people too sometimes what a true friend tells you sounds mean because it is not what you want to hear at all, but true friends are honest with each other and aren't afraid to tell it like it is.

You may resent them at first but when you realize they were right you will see they will still be your friend. Just waiting for you to accept the truth. It's not easy to sort out the good from the bad though.

Answer 3

i have no idea sweetie, I feel for you. I have had the same group of friends (6 girls including me) since grade school. And i love them dearly. and i feel for everyone who has not experienced that kind of love and friendship. there's no greater thing. at the same time, i have no real advice to give on how to find or pick a true friend. it's like finding a love. you can't find it or look for it.. it has to come to you.

i am 23 now, i'm the youngest, and at 18 two friends left our circle. That was is. And we have survived boyfriends and moves. And we're still strong. (i'm in NC now and they are all still in Ohio)

i don't know how old you are... friendships in hs are hard to keep. we were lucky. if your going off to college, you'll have an easier time finding genuine people. Becuase they are going to be in the same boat you are in.

if you don't mind the possibility meeting people from online, find groups to join that have same interests as you.

my husband and I play with fire, blow fire, play with staff and poi. And we've meet some cool people. Just be safe

Answer 4

seems like the story of the world anymore, self centered people are everywhere and its very hard to find anyone that will make a true friend, ive found the easiest way to deal with that is to not expect to have a whole bunch of really good friends, i have two friends who are really truly good friends and thats it, im pretty happy with that, i have other friends but there JUST friends, people i know that are fun to be around but i wouldnt put a great deal of trust in them or expect them to come through as a true friend when i really need them, i think its a matter of understanding that and avoiding putting your trust in the wrong folks. When i do find people like that i always do my best to keep them around and make sure that I'M not the one whos not being a good friend to them, works both ways ya know. good luck, im sure eventually youll find good people to add to your life, sometimes it takes some time though and you have to just be patient. ive gone for years at a time with noone who i would consider a "true friend" and it didnt kill me haha just a little bit sad to have to live that way, good friends make life so much better.

Answer 5

Unfortunately as the world shrinks, people are just getting taken for granted, like dixie cups. What's in it for me and that's that. It's not true that there aren't good friends left though, they are just a rare commodity. Keep looking and don't give up, the person that will be the true friend to you needs you very much too.

Answer 6

I cannot agree more. I had a best friend but he doesn't live by me anymore. Everyone is becoming more preppy and always jumping on the bandwagon. No one is as sensitive as they use to be. That is one of the many reason why true relationships don't exist anymore. I'm still looking for one a good friend, good luck with you.

Answer 7

Well maybe all the bad people have finally gotten to them and they have either become like the bad friends or have gone into hiding so they won't get stomped on. Oh well...we will just have to force the good ones still left out of hiding.

Answer 8

I have been wondering the same thing myself. Friendship used to mean honesty, respect, understanding. To be there through good and bad. Lately it seems all anyone whom calls themselves friends are out for themselves. If you can't or won't give what they want it's Adios Amigo. Most generally seem to be in it for the money they can squeeze out of you. Like my sister in-law. She tells everyone we are friends. When she asks me to go somewhere with her there's always an ulterior motive like she needs gas money or shes starving. Hint,Hint.

Answer 9

I know what you mean, I had tons of friends in the past who were like that a even my friend now. People can be jerks, and they sometimes backstab to make themselves look better. You will find a good friend eventually.. It's just hard.

Answer 10

i am a true friend. it's just that most of the people i meet don't seem like they are worth being friends with! so i know what you mean, it's hard to make real, true, good friends these days. i thought it was just me, that my expectations were too high...