2006-08-31 12:50:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Make sure you are very turned on. Alot of lubrication on him and you. He should use vaseline and finger you with it to turn you on in the anis. Then when you are ready, you relax and keep telling yourself to relax. Then he pushes in very carefully and slowly, when in completely, he waits for you to make the first move. Then he continues very carefully until you let him know if you want more. It takes alot of trust that your partner will listen to your verbal and nonverbal cues. I say vaseline because other products intended for sex do not last as long and become sticky and dry. Vaseline will not hurt anything.
2006-09-01 08:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by marlenekay4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-31 19:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hermit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally echo what someone else said - lots of lube, you MUST relax and have a partner you trust who will go very slowly. The relax part is all a mindset and can't be rushed. It can be good when you're in the right frame of mind. Just because it doesn't work one time doesn't mean it won't work another.
2006-09-01 00:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll still have pain with lube.
They have a type of lube that 'numbs' the anal area and you can find it at your local sex shop.
Good luck :p
2006-08-31 19:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by toronto_guy77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can buy something called 'Anal Ease" at a local Adult store, butt I have never tried it so....I have a friend who used "Anbesol" once..I don't recommend that. I think if your gonna take it up the bum, then take the pleasure with the pain, or don't do it.
2006-08-31 19:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use lots of Ky jelly and go very,very slow over a course of time until you get use to it it will take time so take it slow for a while and try practicing on anal beads.
2006-08-31 19:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Josie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a thing that you must trust your partner. the slower the better. you may not enjoy this, but if there is some thing you like it might be worth trading for now and then to keep the peace and experience that you shall remember, good or bad. a good thick lube a must, not unless you like pain ... lol ha ha he he.
2006-08-31 21:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by hugswin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use lots of lubrication. DO NOT USE VASOLINE OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT, USE SOMETHING THAT IS INTENDED FOR SEX.
Thicker lubricants are supposed to be better for anal sex. Also, have your partner try "priming" you, using one or two fingers before actually penetrating you with his penis.
If it still continues to hurt, stop doing it.
2006-08-31 19:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by EMT Geoffrey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some women, it's just downright uncomfortable. The last woman I dated was willing to try it with me, but it just didn't do it for her.
However, the lady I dated before her was totally into it and got great org@asms from it.
It just differs from woman to woman, and if your body can't handle the discomfort, don't feel badly about it.
2006-08-31 19:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relax and use lots of lube! Also trusting your partner completely is crucial, I think.
2006-08-31 19:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋