I have this friend, she is like my best friend, but everytime she's around her other friends, she tells other people stuff that I don't want others to know. She like knows that I don't want anyone else to know, but, still keeps talking about it. Like, today, she was yelling stuff out really loud at lunch so everybody could hear. I didn't want my other friends to know, because I didn't know them as well, and I though I could trust her. But, after she just blurts stuff out today that I didn't want other people knowing, I was really annoyed at her. I tried to make her shut up, but she went on.... I'm not sure if I can really trust her anymore, even though I used to tell her like everything. And, she thinks it's funny when she tells all of our other friends, even though I don't want them to know. But, she's like the only person I can really talk to.
2006-08-31 12:45:25 · 10 answers · asked by Me ! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's just pushing your buttons. If you made it clear to her that you don't want her blurting out your secrets then a) don't tell her your secrets anymore and b) have a disscusion with her first and tell her upfront that you seriously don't like it. If there's still trouble, I would not get back at her, I would just avoid her until this matter is cleared up.
2006-08-31 12:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Karen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend exactly like this last year. this year we're apart because we went to different highschools and we're almost better friends. We dont talk a lot at all, but when we see eachother im reminded of all the good times we had. Ok sorry enough about me this is your question. I suggest that since you dnt think you can trust her as much anymore you give out less information. Maybe confornt her about how you feel and then slowly let her earn her trust back. I also suggest becoming a "floater" Try out a new gorup of friends! Whats the worst that can happen? I did that and ended up having a great rest of the year. You should first try talking to her though. Thats always the best i think. Give her a chance and let her know that her chances are running out. Also your friend might still be tring to find herself and the decision you have to make is are you willing to put up with her crap until she becomes the nice sweet person you think she is or do you just want to move on? Are you ready to have more mature friends?
2006-08-31 12:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong. You definitely cannot talk to her. She is not mature enough to honor the trust you bestow upon her. She is irresponsible and cannot wait to run to others an tell her "juicy tidbits". What is real strange to me is what is it that not make you able to see this. She obviously has done this several times.
As far as whether or not she is your friend is really not the issue. She thinks she is...but she lacks maturity and seemingly not capable of being a responsible friend. At any rate is that the kind of friend you need?
WAKE UP.
You have to learn to keep things you want kept secrete away from chatty busy bodies. If you give her anymore info that she readily does her "tell all" act, you only have yourself to blame.
2006-08-31 13:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TRUST HER AGIAN. True friends don't humiliate others by spilling secrets like that. I think she is trying to seem cool in front of your other friends. Or maybe she is trying to inflict you with pain because it makes her feel impowered. I think you should get a new friend and only talk to your " best friend" when you have to.
2006-08-31 13:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her, "hey, you are a really good friend, but i'm not sure how long we will still be able to be friends eith you. I don't want to tell you directly what is going on, and i want YOU to figure this out." then, say you have to go, and give her a little while. If she continues the blabbering, just leave, and STOP being friends with her. So, j=just, good luck, it might be hrd, just remember to BE YOURSELF and have fun with life.
2006-08-31 12:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not a good friend friends don't blurt out friends private stuff
all u need to do is not tell her things you don't want anyone else to know.
from kitylov06
2006-08-31 12:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by kitylov06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i was going threw the smae thing with my bestfriend i would tell her stuff that was embarrising to me and as we were talking to people espeacily guys she would just blurt them out i think the only reason she did it is because she wanted people to like her more then me so people would think im wierd or disgusting...Your friend just wants to look like the "good" girl
so do the same thing to her
2006-08-31 12:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by jenicka_hottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brainer...She is not your friend so get rid of her. Friends don't tell your business to others. Don't tell her anything
2006-08-31 12:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't a true friend because true friends can keep secrets.
2006-08-31 12:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by southern girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she is not a good friend
2006-08-31 13:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by poobear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋