i want to cleanup?

Question

I'm used to self bondage,self abuse also self torture that makes me feel happy but now I want to cleanup my problem is that's every time I decide to do my erotic sense puts me back in that so do you have any idea so I can prevent my self of doing so?!

I'm used to self bondage,self abuse also self torture that makes me feel happy but now I want to cleanup my problem is that's every time I decide to do my erotic sense puts me back in that so do you have any idea so I can prevent my self of doing so?! the problem also is that no one know about that in my ambience and i could never tell any of them!

Answer 1

There are very simple steps you can use. These are easy to do. They are also easy not to do. But errors in judgment compounded over time lead to places you most likely don't want to be. Remember, they are easy to do.

You must work hard to envision yourself no longer needing to cause pain to yourself in order to feel happy or good. When you feel like you are going into the direction of self hurt, then stop doing whatever you are doing and bring the clean vision into your mind like a tornado!

If you cannot gain pleasure without the self abuse then go exercise for a long jog, the gym (not to hang out in the locker room ;P), or go for a long bike ride. Something that will physically drain you. If you need to cause yourself pain then push yourself in beyond your limits. At least that way the pain will be construction.

Evaluate your life. Where are you living? If it is a negative environment then move. Who are you friends? If they are negative or need the same things step away from them.

Surround yourself as much as you can with people and things that live and represent the way YOU want to live and feel. If you want to have orgasms just from smelling flowers, surround yourself in people like that. As a less extreme example: if you want to be happy and to feel good without needing pain then get away from people, books, shows, movies, humor or anything that glorifies or validates self inflicted injury as a way to achieve good feelings.

Most of all, keep trying to get what you want. You will succeed!

Answer 2

First of all I am sorry there are so many insensitive people on this site. I am assuming you are asking a serious question. Many people who get into self-mutilation and bondage do so because they have been hurt by others in the past. They need to feel pain in order to feel pleasure because that was how they were taught it by adults.

If you seriously want to change you will need to seek help from a professional who specializes in these types of issues. It wn't be easy and won't happen over night. But it will be worth it in the long run if you are unhappy right now. Good luck.

Answer 3

If I where you I would try to find out why this is arousing to you. When you address the underlying cause you will be released from this bondage.
Oh I just realized that was funny.

Sorry

I mean it though you need to examine the root causes and eliminate them so you can stop torturing yourself. then when the urge comes to you, you can concentrate on how that is not healthy and you wont abuse yourself like that.

Answer 4

Let's just say that I actually understand your issues in this regard, so I believe that I can address this fairly deeply.

I suppose that you need to ask yourself why do want to stop doing what you are doing. Think of it in the context of a bad habit. For example, say something wants to stop eating chocolate even though they crave it. They would use a rationale such as, "Chocolate is bad for me because it is loaded with empty calories." In this sense, a goal is formulated, albeit in the negative, but nonetheless something to strive for.

The next step is to part with those items associated with your bad habit. In my chocolate example, it would mean clearing out that huge stash of chocolate in the closet and tossing it out in one way or another. In your case, this would mean ridding yourself of any equipment that you use or might use. Not having the means at hand helps fight the urges. After that, it is important to not re-acquire these items.

What I outlined is a way to prevent action, but it really doesn't deal with the urge. That only comes from mental discipline, which means that you remind yourself of why you are no longer into that activity. That will only get you so far, so if you need further aid on this, a counsellor might be needed.

As a coda, I have to ask (rhetorically) why you wish to stop doing something that seems to be harmless, meaning that you do not suffer any trauma because of it, I presume. I found that in myself, denying my harmless urges was actually worse as it's like trying to ignore a problem that only grows worse over time. My struggle was with the morality of the issue, which I left unresolved for twenty years. Once I decided that this is a part of who and what I am, it boosted my self-esteem tremendously, and it began the process of learning to accept myself. Just a thought.

Answer 5

Seek therapy at once. Self torture? Self Bondage? This "should" sound bad to you! This isn't something you should be doing to yourself. "If" you had respect for yourself, liked yourself and had some guidance as far as positive feedback in your life, you most likely would not be doing this to yourself. Perhaps its a form of depression....Seek some help; it's NO big deal! If ya get a broken bone ya go to a Dr. and get it treated, NO different if you need some mental help. Best of luck! Cheers! :-D

Answer 6

I even have in no way heard the term, 'cleanup operation' used even with the undeniable fact that i assume in a fashion it would greater healthful. We use the words : purification, sanctification, cleansing. yet I disagree with the assertion additionally- sanctification, cleansing, purification, etc. is an ongoing technique on the journey. one won't be able to sparkling themselves up in the previous salvation, otherwise salvation does no longer be mandatory- Sanctification comes as a results of salvation therough Christ Jesus.

Answer 7

Why is ceasing what makes you happy called "cleaning up?" The way I see it, you are not hurting anyone else and enjoying yourself. Sounds like the recipe for a good time. Just keep the bible out of your sex life and you're set!

Answer 8

It sounds like you might have an addiction. Go to this site for advice. http://www.pureonline.com/?a_aid=CD91&OVRAW=sex%20addicts&OVKEY=sex%20addict&OVMTC=standard If you find out you don't have an addiction and you really want to stop then join some sexual groups and keep busy. Here is a site you might want to visit. http://www.gaychurch.org/ Remember everything in moderation.

Answer 9

There's nothing to clean up. What you're doing is not sick or wrong. Lots of people do that sort of stuff. As long as what you're doing is safe and you aren't doing it for sexual purposes, don't worry about trying to "clean up your act."

Answer 10

Yes, put a couple electric stimulators on your nipples and everytime you get the urge, just remind yourself (that you're trying to quit) with a little jolt......

Oh, wait, that might not work......

Maybe you could get your partner to kick your a$$ next time you misbehave.....

oops, sorry.... I guess that wont work, either....

Maybe you could tie lock yourself up in a male chastity cage...

omg, I'm so sorry....


You're one sick puppy, aren't you. LOLOL

PS I don't believe you. But I'll go along with the gag. ;-)