My 7 month old daughter, as of late, has been crying everytime I put her down..?

Question

Full stomach, clean diaper, toys, everything. Now, I can't put her down to use the bathroom without her crying like she's about to lose her mind.

How do I break this?

Answer 1

Ah, your daughter is advanced! Age 8 months is the typical onset of separation anxiety. You cannot break this - this is your dear daughter's realization that you two are actually separate beings. This is terrifying to her, as she knows she is tiny and defenseless. The intense reaction will subside in a few months, but it's a years long process for you to teach her that you can be counted on and then, that she can learn to coun on herself.

Yes, the mommy needs to go to the bathroom traumas... i remember. keep the door open - leads to quicker 'potty training' sometimes and a natural way to talk about menstruation later.

Anyway, she'll be done with you soon enough - try to minimize separations, know if they're only a moment or so long they are teaching her to trust that you will you come back (before age 3, she really can't take separations of more than an hour or so at a time without extreme stress) and she learns the world is a reliable place where her efforts (right now her crying) pay off.

Never allow a child under one to cry for more than 5 or so minutes. It's extremely damaging to their trust. Oh yes, lots of folks here recommend it, but keep in mind that in American, depression and anxiety are skyrocketing in our children. Babies raised attachment style get independent (rather than peer dependent) early because their needs are met.

Answer 2

I used to babysit a little girl like this (right around the same age) and let me tell you.. I understand it's complete hell.. I agree with the let them cry it out.. But I understand that's really hard for a mother.. Try and slowly work your way away from her.. Like put her down on the floor to play and you sit on the floor, start by sitting with her to play, and then slowly work your way to doing something of your own - on the floor but not sitting beside her and not really interacting with her.. (this may take some time) When she starts crying hand her a toy and go back to what you were doing.. Eventually work your way into leaving the room for 5 minutes.. let her cry and then sit back down but again not with her.. but close enough she can see you.. I know this is a total pain and can be a fairly long process but she'll get it eventually that Mom is here even if she's not holding me...

Answer 3

I don't know if you are a first time mom or not but sometimes when we are new at this we tend to hover over or babies and think that every time they cry they need something. I had the a similar problem with my first one also. If there seems to be nothing wrong with the baby, I would suggest putting he/she in the crib and close the door and letting them cry it out for a while. You may feel ridden with guilt and that your baby is suffering but this is not the case. Sometimes we get babies too used to being in our arms that they get a little spoiled, so let them cry for a while and then pick he/she up. Keep letting them cry a little longer each time and I'm sure the habit will break over time. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Just a quick question... Does she just cry when you LAY her down, or does she cry when you leave her sitting up?

If it just seems to happen, it could be an earache. That was one of the best ways we know when our now 2 1/2 year old had one. She would freak out when we laid her down because going horizontal changes the pressure in their ears, and if it's infected, it'll cause a lot of pain.

If it's whenever you put her down, it probably is just seperation anxiety and she'll get over it eventually. Just do what you need to do, peaking in at her from time to time, and she'll eventually realize you didn't desert her.

Answer 5

Ahhh, the old Mom don't leave me syndrome. Yes, age appropriate! So carry her if you can, or keep her in your sight if you can't. She loves being held, who can blame her. A little crying before a nap won't kill her and will teach her that you haven't left, but it's time to be apart. Don't give in...but don't make her ill either. Some children will work themselves up to actually becoming sick over it. Talk to your doctor about this, there may be physical reasons...my son had cowlick and couldn't lay down without pain for a few months...this will pass...enjoy your baby.

Answer 6

your persons are talking nonsense, my son had incredible leg administration and became helping his weight from some weeks previous (even as we were conserving him, obviously) the well being targeted visitor stated it became extremely problem-free and that some toddlers purely have good muscle tone. I did inquire to no matter if his legs will be bowed if we allowed him to face too frequently yet she reassured us this wasn't the case, in truth she stated it might help him workout his legs. He all started strolling at 10 months. there is not something incorrect including his back. do not worry. even with the undeniable fact that affirming that she's very youthful to be left leant hostile to at least something, be extra careful so she would not fall...

Answer 7

It's seperation anxiety. It's normal and age appropriate. My oldest went through two bouts of it. It's so frustrating.

We played Peek-A-Boo. A lot of it. I started with my hands over my eyes. When that made her giggle, I switched to my hands over her eyes or her hands over her eyes. She learned really quickly that even when she couldn't see me, I was close. Then we switched to blankets, or ducking around the doorway and popping back real fast.

View it as a teaching tool. That's what it is. She's frightened that you aren't there. Show her that even though she can't see you, you are still there. Before you know it, you'll be going to the bathroom in peace.

Answer 8

well that is because she loves for people to pay attention to her. I have a 7 month old daughter and she is the same way. Sometimes you just have to let her cry, it helps her to understand that she will be okay when she is put down.

Answer 9

Sounds like the beginnings of separation anxiety - which I think starts around 1 year - some earlier, some later. She's starting to notice when you're not there and it's making her nervous. Just reassure her, tell her you will be right back, do what you need to do and then go back to her, comfort her, hold her. I think it's important you do the things you need to do, but always return when you say you will. It's hard, but they all go through it and they have to learn that sometimes you need to leave, but you always come back.

Answer 10

Ny 5 month old is already like that. She'll be on the floor with her toys content as can be and as soon as I walk past or something she decides to wig out...basically I dont know what to tell you