Note....I'm talking about me, but I'm not planing on having sex with my boyfriend, because the both of us were raised better...so you don't need to worry about answering honestly. I just wondered, because I know a lot of girls my age have had sex with guys they've only been going out with for a month or so, and then they break up. I also know that this school yeah might just suck because people are definatly goiung to think I've had sex with my boyfriend, when really all we've done is make-out, and that only happend once...but I undestand if people saw us together outside of school and church with no parents around why they would think like that....but still...I really just want to know what you think...
2006-08-31 12:09:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No, I don't think it's appropriate.
Please note, however, that I had a child when I was 16, so this may sound a bit hypocritical.
I also recognize that it is considered "normal" these days, unfortunately.
The problem is that, at age 16, your brain is still in the process of developing. People are not truly capable of making an adult decision then, no matter what they may think. Also, at 16, the hormones that are raging inside a person's body put them at risk of taking sexual action without using their minds at all - which often means no protection (which I know from personal experience, obviously).
FYI, my daughter is now 21. She recently became engaged, and is looking forward to marrying her fiance next October. She didn't have sex with anyone until she met this young man...clearly, they didn't wait until marriage, but they definitely waited for real love. She told me a few months ago that she is SOOO glad she waited, and that it was entirely worth the wait to share that experience with someone who's truly important.
So, keep up your current plan. You're doing great!
2006-08-31 12:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it is appropriate. Saying that a 16 yr old is ready to have sex is also saying that he/she is ready to take on the responsibility of having a child. Sure, you may use protection, but it doesn't always work. So you need to be prepared and ready for a child as well. Having sex is like taking on a responsibility. Not to mention the fact that there are many diseases out there. Are you ready to face any of them if they happen to show up?
Anyways, I think you are doing the right thing by waiting. And who cares what everyone else thinks. Is that really what kids think now a days, that just because two people are dating it means they are having sex? Maybe you should re-think your friends?
2006-08-31 21:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by cyntharella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of my nieces are 16 and I don't want them to have sex ever. But the fact remains that they will ...eventually. I just hope at this point in life they are not and if they did that they wouldn't have sex with a boy after only being with him 6 months. And also that they know that sex doesn't even have to be an option period.
2006-08-31 19:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by cuppycake♀ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are factors to be considered. If both parties gave their consent (granting both are under/over 18) then it would probably be ok. If it is forced or both are either drunk or high, then it wouldn't be ok. At the end of the day, age would not determine if it is appropriate to cross that line. It is the decision of the concerned parties whether or not it is appropriate. As long as both parties understand and accept the possible consequences and responsibilities of their actions. Bottom line is, if you can't handle having kids at this time, don't have sex.
2006-08-31 19:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by dunce002917 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did, when I was 16.
Used a condom and back up birth control.
Never regretted it. It was a lovely experience and set the pattern for more good relationships.
I think that sexuality is very subjective and is something to be judged by those who are in the relationships.
I fear that too many young women consent for the first time out of peer pressure or pressure from their boyfriends... and not because they're 99.9% sure that they will orgasm and not regret things afterwards!
...Until we have a better education system and social envirnment for sex education, conductive to self esteem and confidence... I think that *in general* teens should hold off on sex until and unless they're in a stable monogamous and healthy relationship.
2006-08-31 19:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it's not appropriate. It's the best way to destroy your future., Real life isn't the movies or TV. The consequences can change your whole future. If someone does have sex once, it doesn't mean they have to stay together. If someone asks you to have sex before marriage it's because they don't respect you. Unmarried mothers are the leading cause of poverty for children. What you think is real love at 16 will change with the years.
2006-08-31 19:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by jackie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's morally disgusting for a 16 year old to even be thinking about sex. Thanks for giving me some reassurance that you are not a part of those groups of syncophants who think that teen sex is cool. It's disgusting. It's like eating a banana before it is ripe. *Ewe!*
Never worry about what people think. That is why you never discuss what you do in public and that includes ON-LINE. You should NOT have even told us that you made out once. What if one of us are your parents or your bf's parents?
I hope this is the last time that you reveal that to me about your private life. Now you have me wonderin' how you kissed him and all that when you made out, etc. etc.
Ok, promise that you will not publicly announce stuff like that again OK? Don't you realize that 1/2 the viewers here are 45 year old men in prisons?
2006-08-31 19:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you are ready to care for a child, then sure, why not? I have a lot of friends that had kids while they were in high school.
You should be proud of yourself, stand up for what you believe in. Don't worry about what your classmates think of you, after highschool you'll probably never talk to most of them again.
2006-08-31 19:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Emily E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are going to think what they are going to think...that shouldn't matter all that matters is what you think about yourself...it will be more common for girls not to be virgins than there will be virgins...so actually being a virgin will make you more special to a guy...plus you don't have to deal with all the drama that comes with sex...no worrying that your pregnant...no worrying that you have a disease...no worries that your parents and family will be disappointed...but it sounds like you know all this...and comparing to years together what is 6 months? its peanuts..
2006-08-31 19:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by tweetz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally waited until i was 19, i was dating my boyfriend for 5 months when we did it. i think 16 is a little young, don't feel pressured to do anything. girls are giving it up at 14 now and it's really saddening.
2006-08-31 19:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋